a central flower arrangement, menus, place cards – the lot! This became quite time-consuming in the end, so I had to make sure I asked at least twenty minutes before the meal was actually ready, but it did mean that she happily, and creatively, took on the task.
Make a ‘let’s pretend’ cafe:
Make some personalised placemats; trace around the shapes of where the plate, cup and cutlery should go if your children find it hard to remember. Decorate large paper doilies or A4 paper for temporary mats (or if you have access to a laminator, cover them and they will last longer and be wipeable) with drawings, stickers or pictures cut from magazines.
It’s fun and useful for young children to remember where everybody sits and to think about what the family needs to use during the meal. If they’re feeling particularly creative, let them make place cards, or a menu, or whatever they wish, to create the desired ambiance.
Mealtime rituals and routines differ vastly from family to family, but quite commonly the end of the meal is often the time when children seem to magically disappear and the grown ups are left with the devastation that is the post-dinner dining table. You can occasionally involve the little ones in clearing up the mess with some fun and games, however. For example:
Clear the table with your children helping as best they can alongside, in the manner of robots or fairies, magicians or monsters.
Make some attractive and tactile ‘job stones’ to pick out of a cloth bag to allocate tasks. These are easy to make by painting, drawing or sticking pictures from magazines onto smallish pebbles with PVA glue. Each stone’s picture should represent one of the jobs required to clear the table, for example: collect cups, cutlery, plates and bowls, wipe the table and sweep the floor. The aim is to empty the bag of stones – and complete the jobs – before going off to play something else.
Offer an incentive of a game or some other playful activity at the table once it has been cleared. This can be a real motivator for children of all ages; it’s an example of the When/Then technique (see here).
Making beds
Making the beds is a daily chore that usually takes us grown ups mere seconds in the modern world of duvets, however, small children can find bedding incredibly cumbersome and heavy to manoeuvre. You can still include them, though, by allocating them aspects of the job that they can manage.
Start by making it a job you do together – you could shake and straighten the duvet while your little one plumps and places the pillow.
Young children love to arrange bedtime soft toys. This can be made even more fun with a song:
There was one in the bed
There was one in the bed
And the little one said, ‘Roll over, roll over.’
So he rolled over and another popped in,
Cuddled up tight, and gave a grin
‘Please remember to tie a knot in your pyjamas,
Single beds are only made for one, two. . .’
Continue with ‘three . . . four . . . in the bed’ until all the toys are in position.
Changing the sheets
This is not usually a daily chore, but it still fills some parents with dread – especially if their children have reached the bunk-bed or cabin-bed phase; I know how difficult it is to get the sheets into those bed corners. However, try these playful activities and include your children when you can, and you may even look forward to sheet-changing day.
Have a game of ‘pile-up’. See how quickly you can strip the beds – your child does the pillowcases, you do everything else. The person who finishes their job first gets to ‘flomp’ into the big pile of discarded linen.
‘Monkeys on the bed.’ We have a rule in our house that this game is only allowed when there are no sheets on the beds and when the grown up is close at hand, putting the covers on duvets and pillows; it definitely requires supervision. It’s a fun game that gets them burning off lots of energy. Your little monkeys simply jump up and down on the bed singing the following song (other actions optional):
Monkeys on the bed
Three little monkeys jumping on the bed
One fell off and bumped his head.
Mummy called the doctor, and the doctor said,
‘No more monkeys jumping on the bed.’
Two little monkeys jumping on the bed,
One fell off and bumped his head.
Mummy called the doctor and the doctor said,
‘No more monkeys jumping on the bed.’
One little monkey jumping on the bed,
He fell off and bumped his head.
Mummy called the doctor and the doctor said,
‘No more monkeys jumping on the bed.’
‘Wonderful wafting.’ When my two children were very small, they loved nothing better than to lie on the floor while we wafted the clean, fresh-smelling sheets and covers over them again and again – and occasionally we covered them up, pretending they’d disappeared. It made them giggle and wriggle so much. If you try this, but need a way out of the game (it is rather open-ended), you might try starting to waft a pillowcase at a doll or teddy. Your child may well take the bait and join in, then take over, that game instead – leaving you free to complete the job in hand.
Cleaning the bathroom
This job often requires the use of cleaning products, so it’s not ideal for young children to get too involved, even if you are using green products. Instead:
Try cleaning the bathroom during bath-time when your child is playing
a central flower arrangement, menus, place cards – the lot! This became quite time-consuming in the end, so I had to make sure I asked at least twenty minutes before the meal was actually ready, but it did mean that she happily, and creatively, took on the task.
