under his collar.
I rustle the papers of his blank file and begin again. “Why don’t we start with the family history section? This way you can tell me about your family, and we don’t have to dive right into talking about you personally.”
He turns away from me, folds his paper in his lap and focuses his attention on the men climbing the scaffold across the street.
“Okay, no family history. What about goals for treatment? Would you be willing to talk about what you’d like to achieve while you’re here at Typhlos?”
He raises his eyebrows, releases a breath and adjusts his seat to get a better view of the construction workers.
“Okay, that’s a pretty obvious no. How about telling me a little bit about yourself, informally, and I will gather whatever information I need. How’s that?”
Richard glares disapprovingly. “You want me to sit here and tell you all about me? Like a job interview?”
“If that’s how you want to look at it, yes. A job interview would be great.”
“No.” Blunt. Decisive.
I’m barely making more progress than Gary did. It looks like I’m going to have to work on this guy a bit more than I’d anticipated. I feel exhausted just thinking about it.
I sigh an enormous, frustrated sigh, and I intentionally blow it in Richard’s direction. I hope it stinks of booze and vomit and coffee so he knows how much his resistance is pissing me off.
I’m on the train, watching the people in front of me arguing. It’s packed, and it’s cold outside, but the body heat from the rest of the riders is making me sweat into my scarf. The sways and jolts of the train are lulling me into a trance, and all I can hear is the woman in front of me telling her boyfriend that she has had enough.
I am currently seeing someone. I don’t know why that is the terminology we use—“seeing” someone; usually, I say “seeing someone” in reference to a therapist, but this is how I describe my relationship because I don’t want to say “relationship.” We have been involved for a while.
His name is Lucas. On paper, he is the type of guy you’re supposed to marry. He does something in finance, and he calls it “finance,” which makes me want to punch him. He knows the difference between Cabernet and merlot and wants me to taste the tannins. He has a King Charles spaniel named Maverick, which of course just makes him wildly out of my league. He went to Cornell, and he actively parts his hair. In the morning, he uses a fine-tooth comb and creates a straight line down the left side of his head, and he tucks stray hairs behind the line. I am anal, but he is crazy. He wears shoes that he keeps shoe trees in. He finds it very important that when he gets home from work and he takes off his shoes he immediately puts the shoe trees into the shoes because they are warm from wear and more susceptible to morphing into an undesirable shape. I care less about shoes than he does. He has dirty-blond hair, is tall and wears suits with pocket squares that he has to have folded just so. He’s prettier than I am.
He talks to me about getting married. I find this completely ridiculous. I am not the girl you marry. The only reason I have stayed with him for such a long time is because I am trying to rescue him. This is a well-known pattern in my life, and I have only recently become aware of it and okay with the fact that this is what I do.
He has all the things that girls are looking for: the stability, the money, the good looks, the education. But underneath it all lies a very damaged, very insecure little man, and that is who I am dating.
I do not want this picture of perfection; I do not want this combed, shoe-treed, elitist, country-club gentleman. I want the broken-down little puppy inside of him who is desperately trying to play pretend. I want to find that puppy, I want to rub his belly and give him a good home, and then, when he’s better, I will leave. This is a project. This is a way of making sure that I don’t get hurt, and making sure that someone values me.
I have no way of getting value from within, so I get value from without. As soon as I see the reserves beginning to dry up, I will walk out of his life and move on to the next well of validity. The truth is, this plan isn’t working, and hasn’t been working, but I’m not ready to give up just yet.
Richard is in my group this morning, and I suddenly feel like I am performing more than facilitating a therapy session. He’s sitting next to a relatively new kid named Devon. Devon is my age and surprisingly stylish. Today he’s wearing designer jeans, distressed black leather shoes that extend too far out and look like cartoon cowboy boots, a gray athletic T-shirt and a pretty badass leather motorcycle jacket. Not the kind you pick up at a department store for nine hundred dollars; the kind guys who actually ride motorcycles wear. His long dreads are twisted into a thick ponytail. If I had seen him under different circumstances, I might have said he was hot. Except for the shoes.
Devon is diagnosed with schizophrenia, disorganized type. This isn’t particularly common here; most of the patients with schizophrenia are diagnosed with paranoid type. People outside these walls call it paranoid schizophrenia, but when I’m here I have to say it the right way.
He sits with his legs twisted around each other, at the edge of his seat, constantly wringing his hands together and twisting his arms around one another. At several points during today’s group, he looked like he was about to tip over. After a few groups, Devon began standing up in this position. He would perch on one bent leg with the other leg twisted around it, holding his arms out in front of him and eventually doing something that looked like martial arts. He would shadow box standing like that; he would move his arms in slow, concentrated motions like tai chi. This was both fascinating and distracting.
I’m seeing Devon twitch and perch now, and I’m inwardly terrified of how this is going to affect the other patients—particularly Richard. I’m watching him with one eye while keeping the other eye on the group. Richard is keeping to himself; he’s arranged it so there’s more than one chair between him and any other patient, but he is looking up from his papers over his glasses, and he is noticing Devon. The other patients start to become wary of Devon’s behavior, and some become obnoxious and say they don’t want to be around this weirdo and I should kick him out of the group.
“No one is getting kicked out, Barry. Take it easy.” I lean back on the desk.
“Nah, man, this dude is weird, I don’t want none of his weird getting on me, man. He distractin’ the group! He shouldn’t be in here!” Barry likes to be the peacekeeper while not keeping the peace at all. He frequently causes uproars in the name of justice and the betterment of the group process. I think Barry makes big scenes to distract himself from the voices in his head.
“Barry, since you’ve elected yourself to be the spokesman for this group, why don’t we follow your lead and talk about stigma.” Everyone hates when I do this.
“Aww, Miss Sam, can we not? I’m tired of talkin’ ’bout stigmata.”
“Stigma.”
“Whatever you call it. I’m tired of it.”
“Okay. First of all, what is stigma? What does
