circulation of air, and deep sleep is promoted by the baby’s spontaneous movements that rock the cradle.
Mothers who work in the fields in India resourcefully tie a sari onto the branch of a tree to create a cradle, and place their infant within. It is common for tourists travelling through India to be charmed by the sight of babies hanging in thottils from the trees!
The thottils are most commonly used in villages and in traditional families, but rocking cradles made of cane are also the prized possessions of many mothers. My mother had a rocking cradle for me and my siblings. I remember her rocking my youngest brother to sleep, and I often crept into the room to rock the cradle.
And it’s not just an Indian tradition. The Mexican culture has historically endorsed hammock sleeping too, and now Australia is following suit. Neonatal units there have studied the positive effects of babies sleeping in baby hammocks and have reported many positive benefits, particularly better quality sleep. Mainly this is because of emotional security, as the baby feels snug and held, as if the sling is an extension of the womb or loving arms. But head support – and comfort – seems to play a role too. In particular, it was noted there was a dramatically reduced incidence of Flat Head Syndrome, a phenomenon increasingly seen in the West as a result of neonatal advice that babies must only be laid on their backs. I do not contradict this advice at all, but I do advise those mothers whose babies show signs of developing Flat Head Syndrome to place them in a hammock or thottil for a couple of hours each day. I recommend buying a baby hammock from www.babyhammocks.com as these have passed all safety checks.
SEPARATE ROOMS
London is a city of lanky Georgian and Victorian terraces, and I inwardly despair when I hear my London mothers relate their middle-of-the-night stories with the baby ensconced on an entirely different floor in the house. Not only is the baby isolated, but also the poor, exhausted mother is trudging up and down several flights of stairs each time the baby stirs. Some of my mothers consider this the easier option, however, and I do sympathize when they say they simply cannot sleep in the same room as their baby. Hormones are running at such a state of high alert anyway that every whisper and sigh their baby emits can drag them out of sleep and leave them permanently exhausted. This is no good to anyone and can compromise the quality of the mother’s milk.
If you do choose to place your baby in a separate room, there is still plenty you can do to make sure the baby feels secure:
Respond to the baby’s waking cries quickly. She needs to see you and smell you as soon as she can, as this will reassure her that you are always at hand when she needs you.
For the first few weeks, put the baby to sleep in a swinging crib or place the baby’s Moses basket inside the big cot, beneath the mobile.
When the baby has outgrown the Moses basket/crib (by around twelve weeks) put the baby to sleep in the big cot, under the mobile, which by now should be familiar.
Place the baby to sleep on a baby sheepskin. These really do comfort babies, making them feel held, and they seem to sleep more soundly on them. The baby sheepskins are sheared to an extra-short length but, if you like, you can place the sheepskin under the baby’s cot sheet.
To make the big cot seem smaller, roll up two clean cellular pram blankets and lay them either side of the baby’s waist, like mini bolsters. These help the baby feel more secure and confined, again echoing the womb. Equally, you can buy special baby mats, which have attached bolsters at the sides.
Another tip is to roll a larger cellular cot blanket lengthways and loop it in a U shape. The U-bend should pat up against the baby’s bottom, with the baby’s legs hanging bent over the blanket and the blanket running up the baby’s sides. This really helps the baby to feel held.
If you have a cuddle cloth, tuck it next to your skin in your bra so that it absorbs your smell. Then you can tie this to the cot and help reduce any separation anxiety.
SWADDLING
One of the hardest things for the new parent – particularly the new dad – is getting used to the tiny proportions of the newborn body. An adult’s big hands and strong arms can easily feel clumsy when that little body is flailing and wriggling about. But swaddling can really minimize that awkwardness. Swaddling is an age-old custom that crosses nearly every culture in the world – from Eskimo babies in sealskins, African babies in kakoi slings to Japanese babies swaddled into the silken folds of obi wraps. Swaddling is fantastic for helping a baby feel secure. Keeping the arms and legs bound in a secure wrapping mimics the confines of the baby’s beloved womb. When the baby is born, one of the most pronounced birth reflexes is the Moro, or startle reflex, when the baby suddenly throws out her arms and legs when startled. The Moro reflex is an involuntary response to threat and acts as the earliest form of ‘fight or flight’ response. This is generally more pronounced in boys than girls, and begins to fade away gradually from three weeks. It can be alarming for the baby who, at this point, has no idea that those flailing arms and legs are actually her own and often scratches herself, hence the need for scratch mittens.
I recommend swaddling the baby in a cellular cotton blanket for the first three weeks to give her the feeling of the continuity of being held in a womb. After this time, the baby usually starts to wriggle out of it. You can then move on to swaddling the baby under the arms so that the body and legs feel held but her arms can stretch out. After a couple of days of contented sprawled sleeping, the baby is ready to go into the now-popular baby sleeping bag.
note
Only ever use a cellular blanket for swaddling, as the intrinsic holes within the cellular blanket will provide a crucial air supply should the blanket go over the baby’s face. The risk of this increases as the baby gets bigger and stronger, as the increased wriggling dislodges the blanket off the shoulders and moves it up around the face, risking suffocation.
how to swaddle
1 Take a cellular blanket and fold one corner up to the opposite corner, making a triangle.
2 Place the triangle so that the longest straight edge is arranged at the top.
3 Lay the baby down on the centre of the blanket, with her shoulders just an inch or so below this long edge.
4 Check that the lip of the blanket doesn’t protrude so high above the shoulders as to cover the baby’s mouth when she turns her head to the sides.
5 Take one corner from the right or left (whichever is shortest, depending upon how centrally you’ve placed the baby on the blanket) and snugly wrap it around the baby’s body. Make sure the baby’s arm is placed down at the sides, and pull the blanket down and around so that the corner can be tucked under the baby’s bottom. Keep the tuck as flat as possible so it’s not bulky and uncomfortable beneath the baby’s body.
6 Pull over the remaining corner – again in a downward direction, with the baby’s arm down at the corresponding side, and tuck under the baby’s bottom. Again, keep the tuck as flat as possible.
a new way to handle babies
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Water Bonding
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