SNAP!
Change Your Personality in 30 Days
Gary Small, MD, and Gigi Vorgan
Humanix Books
SNAP!: Change Your Personality in 30 Days
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Disclaimer: The information presented in this book is not specific medical advice for any individual and should not substitute medical advice from a health professional. If you have (or think you may have) a medical problem, speak to your doctor or a health professional immediately about your risk and possible treatments. Do not engage in any care of treatment without consulting a medical professional.
ISBN: 978-1-63006-091-6 (Hard Cover)
ISBN: 978-1-63006-092-3 (E-book)
Contents
Acknowledgments
Preface
Chapter 1: Personality Can Change
Chapter 2: Four Phases of Change
Chapter 3: Assess Yourself and Define Your Goals
Chapter 4: Extraversion 101
Chapter 5: Becoming More Conscientious
Chapter 6: Learning to Agree
Chapter 7: Taming Your Neurosis
Chapter 8: Opening Up to New Experiences
Chapter 9: Fast-Tracking Your Change with Therapy
Chapter 10: 30 Days to a Better You
Bibliography
Index
WE ARE GRATEFUL TO the many volunteers and patients who participated in the research studies that inspired this book as well as the talented investigators who performed the studies. Thank you to our colleagues, friends, and family members who provided their guidance and input, including Howard Chang, Stuart and Valerie Grant, Rachel Small, and Harrison Small. Special thanks to our longtime agent and good friend, Sandra Dijkstra, as well as Mary Glenn at Humanix Books and Chris Ruddy at Newsmax Media.
Gary Small, MD, and Gigi Vorgan
Note: Many stories and examples contained in this book are composite accounts based on the experiences of several individuals and do not represent any one person or group of people. Similarities to any one person or persons are coincidental and unintentional. Readers may wish to talk with their doctor before starting any exercise or diet program.
THINK OF A PERSON you admire. How would you describe her personality? Is she outgoing, warm, or conscientious? Do you think of her as funny, confident, or generous? Perhaps you wish you were more like her in some ways.
Consider someone you don’t care for. What is it about his personality that bugs you? Is he anxious, short-tempered, or unreliable? You probably don’t try to emulate that person.
Now describe your own personality. Are you extroverted and popular? Would you say you are efficient and organized? High strung or moody? Are there any qualities about yourself you would change if you could? If your answer is yes, you are not alone. Research shows that the vast majority of people do want to alter certain aspects of their personality, and not just a little bit. Most desire profound personal improvements but don’t even know that change is possible.
Personality defines who we are as individuals. It is a sum of the relatively stable traits that make up our unique character and is driven by our distinctive patterns of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Each of us has a personality fingerprint that reflects who we are—our inner temperament that drives how we act and react in the world.
Experts in psychiatry and psychology have long believed that our personalities are essentially set from early childhood and remain consistent throughout life. However, the latest scientific evidence contradicts this long-held assumption. New compelling evidence indicates that we can change our personalities (either on our own, with the help of a therapist, or a combination of the two) and meaningful personality change can be achieved in a snap—as little as 30 days. These groundbreaking findings have shattered the false belief that we are locked into our negative personality traits, no matter how much they hinder our potential happiness and success.
As you read SNAP!, you will gain a better understanding of who you are now, how others see you, and which aspects of yourself you’d like to change. You will acquire the tools you need to change your personality in just one month—it won’t take years of psychotherapy, self-exploration, or rehashing every single bad thing that’s ever happened to you. If you are committed to change, this book will provide a road map to achieving your goals and becoming a better you.
Gary Small, MD
Gigi Vorgan
Los Angeles, CA
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