Saunya M. Williams, Ph.D.
I Choose
to
L.I.V.E.
“Embracing the Real Me”
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First published by 3G Publishing, Inc. (November)(2015)
ISBN: 978-1-941247-17-4
All scripture quotations are taken from the New King James Version (NKJV) of the Bible.
Photography done by Neville Simpson
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To my mommy, Linda Harris, you encouraged me to share my story without reservation. This book exists because of your unselfish support…thank you!
I love you forever plus one day!
- Saun
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Table of Contents
INTRODUCTION 7
CHAPTER 1 11
LOVE
Outside-In Type 9
Material Possession 10
Professional Achievement 12
Social Status 12
Aesthetic Appeal 14
Inside-Out Type 18
Internal Presence of God 18
Front-Row Seat 19
CHAPTER 2 23
INVEST
Garbage 23
Plastic Bag 26
No Progress 28
Goals 30
Planned Purpose 30
God’s Blueprint 33
CHAPTER 337
VICTORY
Divine GPS 37
Victim to Victor 40
CHAPTER 445
ENCOURAGE
Mirror Reflection 45
Duplicate Your Present 45
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Recall Your Past 47
Two-Dimensional Network 49
CONCLUSION 53
L.I.V.E. SUMMARY SCRIPTURES 55
ABOUT THE AUTHOR 57
NOTES 59
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INTRODUCTION
One year in particular, I traveled for approximately 40 out of 52 weeks and spent over 150 nights in various hotels. The extensive travel was required for my job so I was accustomed to “life on the road,” as I considered my lifestyle. After experiencing so many challenges, I was certain that I had put the worst of them behind me. Unexpectedly, the weight of being molested as a child had started to resurface, and the weight soon became an unbearable encumbrance. The fact that the burden was so heavy was an indication that my previous attempts to bury that particular burden had not been as successful as I thought.
For many years, I had been living with a forward-thinking motto and more self-confidence so I was surprised to realize that my struggle with being molested was very much alive. I was revisiting the most traumatic battle of my life, and my feeling of being a conqueror had suddenly vanished. My chest felt like a building had collapsed upon me, and I doubted that I was strong enough to overcome the same battle again. I turned to God for understanding and asked, “Why me and why now?”
Simultaneously, I had been in a long-distance relationship with Raider for almost five years so I welcomed the opportunity to minimize the distance between us. I thought that my travel schedule would benefit our relationship by affording us with more time together. Quickly, I discovered that the excitement that he had shown toward me was not sincere. I was well aware that Raider had been experiencing financial hardship over the years, but I never imagined the enormous depth of his deception. I could not comprehend why Raider preferred to continuously live in a path of self-destruction, which included lies, theft, and domestic abuse.
Until then, I never realized that I had created an exhausting role for myself by relying on my personal relationships to fill such a huge void. I had spent the majority of my life believing that a successful relationship with a man was my only way to experience real love. When I lost the very thing that I had believed was the key to my healing, I did not know what
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I Choose to L.I.V.E.
to do. My emotional capacity had been depleted, and I was no longer able to substitute the emptiness. The increase in amount of time that I had begun to spend alone caused me to question my beliefs. I said to God, “Now this too, but why?” and never heard an answer.
The combination of the resurrected shame of being molested and heartache from my failed relationship was such an emotional disaster for me. I would think about all that I had overcome and all that I had achieved up to that point, but my thoughts and feelings kept leading me toward defeat. Thus, the question, “Why me?” became the primary focus of my life at that time. My mind became inundated with thoughts of failure, and I could not make sense of the situation.
I was the leader of the mime ministry at my church, but I had lost both my faith and my praise. Shamefully, I did not know how to tell the other members of my ministry that I had given up on God and did not want to mime anymore. I had stopped believing in the Word of God and had no desire to worship
