gay women were thinking critically about the objectification of women, and consequently, were careful not to objectify one another. More recently, third-wave feminism and queer theory, both highly focussed on the linguistic power of “taking back” words, have become more influential, and many lesbian-specific and reappropriated terms are coming into use.
Against the law, all that, alluring, approachable, attractive, awesome, babelicious, beautiful, beddable, bedroom eyes (has), bedworthy, best-built, bitcher, bitchin’, bitching, blazing, bodacious, boobalicious, built, built for comfort, busty, buxom, choice, cute, curvy, dishy, doable, doe-like, doll, dreamy, drooly, easy on the eyes, enticing, Eve-like, eye candy, fetching, fine, finie, fit, fly, foxy, fuckable, georgeous, ginchy, glam, gnarly, handsome, has bedroom eyes, has pulling power, has sex appeal, haveable, heartbreakin’, hot, hotcha, hugsome, hunky, looks like a million bucks, mobile, neat, Nice Lady, oochie, oomphy, oughta be a law, pretty, punchable, purty, radiant, red hot, right on time, rompworthy, sexational, sexy, shaggable, sizzlin’, smashing, smokin’, snappy, snazzy, stacked, stacks up nice, statuesque, stunning, such a mona, sweet,table grade, tasty, tight, to-die-for, twisty
Stacked: the recent theorizing of femme as an independent gender expression has lead to a resurgence of many pulpy adjectives, i.e.: glam, foxy, lovely.
Buxom: fat activists like Nomy Lamm and Beth Ditto challenge the sizist leanings of the queer community by presenting sexually confident personas and choosing to celebrate their curves when they describe themselves. Also: buxom, curvy, busty.
VGL: very good looking
Balls: see Testicles
Bear
Developed in the late 1980s and early 1990s, bear culture composed of hirsute (both body and face) gay men, ususally physically larger than average.
arb, acrctophile, bear chaser, Bear Code, behr (moustache only), black bear, bruin, grizzly, hirsute, husbear, huscub, Koala (blonde fur), leather bear, male bear, muscle bear, otter, polar bear (greying), ursophile, wolf, woof
Bear Code: a bear version of the Kinsey Scale rating one’s “beariness” by their amount of body and facial hair.
Black bear: an African-American bear.
Bruin: A bear who plays sports.
Husbear/ huscub: a bear boyfriend or husband.
Otter: a skinny man who is into bears.
Wolf: an older bear who prefers younger men, a.k.a. pups. Or an aggressive Otter.
Woof: bear slang for hot man or go, girl!
Bedroom
Not the queerest place for sex but it will do, in a pinch.
bedchamber, boudoir, chamber, cradle, crib, cubicle, doss, dungeon, fuck pit, guest room, hotbed, letting, pad, pit, playroom, shag pad
Boudoir: from the French bouder, meaning to pout (as in a place to pout).
I am being led and
am being led
I am being led gently to bed
—Gertrude Stein
Bisexual
Even in the gay community, many terms for bisexual suggest either sexual confusion or treachery, reflecting persistent negative attitudes towards individuals who refuse to “pick a side.”
Bisexuality immediately doubles your chances for a date on a Saturday night.
—Woody Allen
AC/DC, ambidextrous, ambiguous, ambisextrous, ambisexual, amphigenous inversion, amphisexual, Androgynophylia, batting and bowling, batting for both teams, betty bothways, bi, bi-curious, bi-kinky, bi-possible, bibi, bi-chick, bi-guy, bicoastal, bisexuous, BSO, bungie boy, butcher boy, byke, CK1, confused, convertible, door's ajar, double adapter, double gaited, double life man, drinks from both taps, Dyke tester, fence-fucker, flexual, flip, flip-flop, fruit-picker, gate-swinger, Gillette blade, gray cat, greedy, half-and-half, half-bent, half rice half chips, happy shopper, heteroflexible, Horatian, intermediate, jack of all trades, jack of both sides, Jo-Ann, kiki, licks both sides of the stamp, mercenary, neither Arthur nor Martha, omnisexual, plays for both teams, plugs in both ways, questioning, rides a Bi-cycle, rides side-saddle, sexoschizia, sexually confused, shops on both sides of the street, side-saddle queen, simulsexual, swings both ways, switch hitter, TBH, try-sexual, twixter, two-way baby, two-way Johnny, versatile, waffler, wears bi-focals, yo-yo
Amphisexual: from the Latin amphi for on both sides.
BSO: “Bi significant other.”
Butcher boy: a gay man who has sex with a lesbian.
Bungie boy/girl: reference to bungie jumping, an “extreme sport” involving jumping from great heights, attached by a bungie cord.
Byke: a bisexual dyke
CK1: hipster talk for somebody “bi,” referring to a Calvin Klein perfume.
Door’s ajar: noun for one whose imminent coming out has been predicted.
Fence-fucker: derives from sitting on the fence, which suggests indecisiveness.
Flexual: open to same sex activity without identifying as gay.
TBH: “to be had.”
Try-sexual: tries anything.
Switch hitter: 20th-century American term; derives from baseball terminology for an ambidextrous hitter.
Bite/Biting
see also Kiss, Lick, Swallow
chew, chomp, chow down, eat, hickey, love bite, mark up, munch, nab at, nibble, nip, odaxelagnia, pierce, sample, snack, taste, teeth marks, wound
Odaxelagnia: from the Greek, meaning arousal from biting.
Blow Job: see Fellatio
Bottom/Top: see Fetish, Sodomy
Boyfriend
Anon. France, c. 1910. (Thomas Waugh Collection)
see also Lover
admirer, ace lane, adventure, back-door man, beau, beaufriend, bedfellow, best fellow, better half, bf, boo, boy toy, boyf, breadwinner, brown bagger, bones (the), buffalo, biscuit roller, companion, constant companion, daddy, domestic partner, fancy man, friend, goonie, GSO, his lordship, honey man, hubbie/hubby, item, jellyroll, john, just good friends, king, lad,
