by Katherine Pickett
Published by Apprentice House
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Loyola University Maryland
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For my mother, Kuk Ying Uhlenkamp
Prologue 序幕
The first thing you need to know is I’m not Chinese. My name is Raymond Wong and I stopped being Chinese at the age of five.
Twenty-eight years ago my mother left my father in Hong Kong to come to America in search of a better life. Don’t ask about my trip to the US. I don’t remember.
What I do know is I’m American. In school, children are cruel to those who are different. Speaking Chinese made me different. I don’t speak Chinese anymore.
It’s not a big deal. I live in San Diego. My stepfather, Roger, is from Pengilly, Minnesota. Speaking Chinese would only make me an outsider and that’s something I’ve struggled against my whole life. Kids at school used to always ask me what I was. They really wanted to know if I ate with chopsticks.
My answer: British. True. The British government has ruled Hong Kong for over 150 years. My response never failed to bring a puzzled frown and this gave me great satisfaction.
Still no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t fit in—even in my own family. Though I refused to speak Chinese, it didn’t bring me closer to the man my mom married when I was six. Roger called me his son, but the words were empty, like a birthday spent alone.
He tried. He really did. It’s just something you can’t fake. Either you love someone as your own or you don’t. When my brother, Michael, was born, the difference became apparent in the way Roger looked at him.
My sister, Renee, is two years younger than Michael, and almost thirteen years separate us. Michael is close to Roger. Renee has my mother. I’ve always taken care of myself.
My mom, how do I describe her? A woman who never graduated high school, yet learned to manage property and recently sold a thriving restaurant. Successful, determined, always right. One thing she hasn’t been able to do—get my stepfather to quit drinking. But not for lack of effort: fighting, baiting, even blackmail. She hasn’t given up.
Her number one goal in life is to get me married, preferably to someone Chinese, so she can show off her grandchildren. Call me stubborn, but this fish isn’t biting. The word marriage isn’t in my vocabulary and being a father is the furthest thing from my mind.
Above all, my mother is a mirror. I see the Chinese reflection and turn away.
So it was with more than a little reservation that I consented to accompany her on a trip to Hong Kong. I’m not sure why I agreed to go. She had asked many times before, but she might as well have spoken in Chinese. This time, a sense of urgency in her voice told me it might be my last chance.
Journey 旅程
Chapter 1
L.A. International, 1996. A delay of the flight to Seoul en route to Hong Kong stranded us at the terminal, so my mother and I waited, carry-ons at our feet.
I didn’t know what to expect in Hong Kong and only retained faint impressions of people swarming en masse. My attitude—try to have no expectations and treat it like any other vacation. The only problem—spending time with my mother was anything but relaxing.
I put down the book, The Courage to Write: How Writers Transcend Fear, by Ralph Keyes and looked at my mom. So strange to see her new hairdo. Prior to the trip, she told me Hong Kong would be hot in August, but the short hair and perm came as a complete shock. The length coupled with the artificial texture made me think of a huge ball of steel wool atop her head.
I said, “You still haven’t told me all the people we’re going to meet in Hong Kong.”
“We see many people,” my mother replied.
“And my father? When will I get a straight answer about him?”
She studied the vacant seat across from her, as if contemplating a matter of great importance. “Something I never tell you about Hong Kong. When I marry to your father, I work at cleaning hotels. I was carry you in my stomach, but I still working. I am hard worker, you know.”
She shifted her gaze to me and I nodded. “Late at night, I take bus go home to your father. I get out, and a man, I never see him, he grab from behind and choking me. He choke and choke.” She clenched her hands together and yanked them back and forth to simulate the assault. “I no can breathe, and I think I going to die. Then he stop.” She sliced her hand through the air like a machete. “He tear the necklace from my neck, take my purse, so I turn to see him. You know what he do?” Disgust burrowed into her brow. “He punch me in the face because I look at him! He punch me and run. I try to chase, but he very fast. I yell and yell, but nobody come. That the way in Hong Kong, nobody helping.”
I could picture her, pregnant and nearly strangled to death, picking herself up off the cement, and alone, in the middle of the night, giving chase to a vicious attacker. That was my mother.
The image was clear, but I could not feel for her. It brought to mind a story on the six o’clock news or a segment from America’s Most Wanted, not the personal recounting of a traumatic incident happening to someone I cared about. And guilt flooded over me for what I didn’t feel.
I stared at the bag on the ground. Why had she told me this? Why now?
***
The third hour of our flight and only eight more to endure. My lower back throbbed and my hip ached, but I didn’t want to fight through an obstacle course of knees and trays to get up again. Normally, I liked to fly and enjoyed the takeoffs and landings the most. Maybe it stemmed from my initial trip to the US. Not old enough to understand the circumstances, I recalled the sensation of a carnival ride. Now, as I watched a flight attendant help a doe-eyed boy adjust his seat belt across the aisle, another memory surfaced. Young, and without my mom, I wasn’t scared. A uniformed woman, perfumed with the scent of fresh-cut flowers, kept bending down to check on me.
I turned to my mother. “Did I ever fly by myself when I was a boy?”
She glanced at me out of the corner of her eye. “Hard to remember.”
But she came armed with an extraordinary memory. My stepfather could attest to that. In their fights, she would remind him in excruciating detail about a transgression committed years before. Her recall, like a poisoned tip at the head of a long spear, reached back to one’s earliest mistakes. I had been on the receiving end enough to know.
“A flight attendant kept reassuring me. She was very friendly,” I said.
“Let me think. Ah
