until you master them.
While practicing deliberately, you are at the boundary of your limits and knowledge, stretching out for a goal that is just a little out of reach. When you reach for something, the idea is pounded in even better.
Deliberate practice is all about having a blue-collar mind-set. In his book The Little Book of Talent, Daniel Coyle wrote:
From a distance, top performers seem to live charmed, cushy lives. When you look closer, however, you’ll find that they spend vast portions of their life intensively practicing their craft. Their mind-set is not entitled or arrogant; it’s 100-percent blue collar: They get up in the morning and go to work every day, whether they feel like it or not.
As the artist Chuck Close says, “Inspiration is for amateurs.”13
Finding our calling in life, pursuing it with a strong passion and intense focus, and engaging in deliberate practice results in ikigai. Will Durant put it best when he said, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”14
THE IMPORTANCE OF CHOOSING THE RIGHT ROLE MODELS, TEACHERS, AND ASSOCIATES IN LIFE
I was lucky to have the right heroes. Tell me who your heroes are and I’ll tell you how you’ll turn out to be. The qualities of the one you admire are the traits that you, with a little practice, can make your own, and that, if practiced, will become habit forming.
—Warren Buffett
Good teachers, in any field, do far more than convey information; they pass along something of themselves.
—Peter Buffett
People who constantly strive to improve themselves usually have a role model. This is a crucial aspect in the journey of self-improvement. As creatures of comfort, we are reluctant to step out of our comfort zone, and we often lack the inner urge. Because many of us are motivated by examples, however, we come to realize that the drive to improve can sometimes be found among others—or, to be more precise, can be driven by others. Role models fill that position nicely, and having them in our lives is an indicator that we intend to embark on a path of self-improvement.
In his book The Education of a Value Investor, Guy Spier writes about the importance of find one’s role models in life:
There is no more important aspect of our education as investors, businesspeople, and human beings than to find these exceptional role models who can guide us on our own journey. Books are a priceless source of wisdom. But people are the ultimate teachers, and there may be lessons that we can only learn from observing them or being in their presence. In many cases, these lessons are never communicated verbally. Yet you feel the guiding spirit of that person when you’re with them.1
Role models act as our motivational coach and as a source of daily inspiration in our lives. I have many role models, and every year, I discover new ones during the course of my journey. You may wonder how one learns from his or her role model. You need to read about the lives of these people, what they have accomplished over the years, and how they learned, and then learn from their experiences. Vicarious learning is valuable, as our personal experience and insight is but a tiny fraction of the total experience and insight of humankind.
Teachers open the door, but you must enter by yourself.
—Chinese proverb
The very instant when we come across our role model, we usually know it. The feeling we experience at that moment cannot be described in mere words; it can only be experienced. It is one of profound inspiration, motivation, and finding one’s purpose in life.
Certain things you can do, or questions you can ask, will help you choose the most appropriate role models:
• Look for the people who achieved results similar to the ones you are trying to achieve.
• Look for people who have struggled with the same problems that you have in your life and try to understand how they overcame them.
• Find someone whose life story is so inspirational that it simply uplifts you and motivates you.
• If you have trouble staying motivated or inspired, look for someone who, by their very actions, inspires you in a specific way.
• If you lack discipline, look for role models who have plenty of it and who teach others how to adopt their discipline and dedication.
It really is up to you. First, you should clearly define exactly what you are looking for. After that, you can more easily identify your role models. As the saying goes, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”
No discussion of role models can ever be complete without mentioning our parents. Most of us have experienced the wide reach of their compassion. Years of daily care. Sleepless nights. Endless worrying about our well-being. Unconditional love. Moral support during tough times.
Always give time to your parents. We are so busy growing up that we often forget they are growing old. Parents usually don’t ask that we spend time with them, but recognizing need is part of what makes one a person of value.
It is a wonderful feeling to care for our parents. We have many ways to do this. Showing appreciation for little acts. Spending time together. Making small gestures of love and affection. This is all most parents want from us. It is what gives them great happiness.
My noble mother taught me the virtues of honesty, kindness, and empathy. My dear father constantly motivated me to push my limits and to improve. He has been a great friend, philosopher, and guide and has given me the greatest gift anyone could give: he believed in me. I would like to make a special mention of my late maternal grandfather, who taught me the virtues of hard work. His eternal words of wisdom to me during my early teenage years had a profound and lasting impact on my life: “There is no alternative to hard work.”
Throughout my childhood years, I was a weak student. I barely finished tenth grade. My scores were so abysmally low that it was a struggle for me to gain admission to a decent high school. It was only my subsequent awakening, driven by a major personal setback, that made me finally realize the virtues of hard work and determined effort, and that was the catalyst for my academic revival and professional career growth. And this is why I instantly related to legendary investor Arnold Van Den Berg’s life, when I read his inspirational words:
I always had this image of myself that I wasn’t very smart, and the way I did in school proved that I wasn’t. But: Once I realized that if you dedicate yourself and you commit yourself, you can learn anything. I will admit this: whatever I learn takes me three times as long as anybody else. But if I spend three times as much time as anybody else, then I’m equal. I can learn it, just give me more time, more books.2
Hang Out with People Better Than You, and You Cannot Help but Improve
In his 2002 shareholder letter, Warren
