My Jewish Year. Abigail Pogrebin
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On the following day—Rosh Hashanah itself—the petitionary song, “Avinu Malkeinu” (“Our Father, Our King”), feels unusually soul-wringing. Though the literal translation is somewhat distancing—formal and masculine—nevertheless the melody feels embedded in my DNA. I’ve heard it every year of my life.
Our father our king, hear our voice
Our father our king, we have sinned before you
Our father our king, Have compassion upon us and upon our children
I confess, not every section of this morning service comes alive for me. But I’m attuned, for the first time this year, to the three key themes of the day, which map the middle of the service:
God rules. Malchuyot (verses of sovereignty)
God remembers. Zichronot (verses of remembrance)
God redeems. Shofarot (verses of the Shofar)
I can hang my hat on that. Or at least, it gives me a sense of why there’s so much God praise in this service: the tributes are for different things, not as redundant as I’d thought. It’s too tidy to say that the God I believe in does rule, remember, and redeem. The “rule” part, at least, trips me up. Too authoritarian. And the “redeems” section suggests that we should rely too much on a higher being to do our heavy lifting. But my mind is firing differently now because I understand the framework: ruler, remembrance, and redemption.
That afternoon, the rain begins just as my fifteen-year-old daughter, Molly, and I walk to the East River with fellow congregants to observe Tashlich (casting off)—the ritual of throwing one’s sins (aka hunks of challah) into a moving body of water. JTS professor Rabbi Visotzky hates Tashlich: “Throwing crumbs out of your pocket doesn’t absolve you of your sins,” he scoffs. “It’s not the real work.” But this is one rite I’ve done since the kids were small, and I have always found it to be profound in the simplest way. Maybe because it’s a physicalized expiation instead of just atoning in our heads. Maybe because Tashlich has always made confession tangible for my children. Since they were little, I’ve taken them to the water to watch their faults float away.
I hesitate to confess what I threw into the East River this year, because it feels akin to revealing my birthday-candle wish—too sacrosanct, too risky. Suffice it to say that I have a pretty clear sense of what needs fixing.
Friday morning, the second day of Rosh Hashanah (yes, there’s a second day, which most of my Reform friends don’t observe, but the Orthodox do, per the Hebrew calendar), I visit Romemu, a congregation on the Upper West Side, which draws from traditional and Eastern spiritual practices, and which strives to make every prayer feel not just applicable but emotional.
Rabbi David Ingber, who maintains a kind of simmering concentration on the bimah (elevated platform), leads the service with Rabbi Jessica Kate Meyer, who has a poetic presence. People clap or sway in the pews around me, even, at times, lifting their arms in the air. Before each aliyah (call to the Torah), which precedes the reading of a Torah portion, Ingber introduces an idea, or personal challenge, and invites those for whom it resonates to come up for the blessing.
“Invite the Torah to say to you, ‘Please find the places in your life that you have yet to disclose, the places where privilege acts as a block to more meaningful participation in the world, to making the world a better place. If this speaks to you and you would like to stand for the first aliyah this morning, I invite you to come forward.”
I like the idea that a call to the Torah can be personalized. Ingber offers an aliyah for those experiencing loss, for those who have felt barren, for those who have had to make a sacrifice. He dramatizes how current the Torah can be.
His choice of prayer book also underscores an insistence on relevance. Romemu’s machzor (holiday prayer book) is fatter than any I’ve ever seen, and far more captivating. I need to mention this volume because it becomes my lifeboat throughout the morning. Without it, I am unmoored. It’s something I keep realizing in myself this year: I need the facts in order to feel. The structure of this book provides a running explanation of why each prayer is there and how it connects to Torah or to the liturgy as a whole. Looking up the author’s name after the service, I am surprised to learn the book was compiled by a non-rabbi who was simply captivated by liturgy and eager to open it up for others. Joseph Rosenstein was raised Orthodox and teaches mathematics at Rutgers, my father’s alma mater. I’m certain that if every bored Jew held this prayer book, they would never be bored again.
After services, I’m not quite finished with this holiday. It’s time to experience a more modern Tashlich. I signed up for “Let it Go: A Tashlich Walk” near the theater district, conceived by the Lab/Shul, a self-described “Experimental Jewish Community” based in Tribeca, in collaboration with Elastic City, which organizes “participatory walks.”
The self-selected group meets up near an open plaza in Hell’s Kitchen, and I instantly feel shy among a group of thirty mostly younger strangers. What puts me at ease is our leader, Lab/Shul founder Amichai Lau-Lavie, a kinetic Israeli in jeans and baseball hat, sunglasses hanging on his shirt collar, whose obvious lack of self-consciousness makes me let go of mine. “Welcome, everybody!” he shouts over the city noise. “Let’s get started.”
We make a circle around the plaza’s fountain, which includes four sculptural female figures representing the four seasons, all holding up the globe. Amichai directs us to stand near the season with which we identify most and to introduce ourselves to someone who’s chosen the same season. I’m an autumn. I end up chatting with someone named Tony who works at Friends of the IDF (Israeli Defense Forces), an organization that ships supplies and care packages to soldiers in the Israeli army. Tony grew up in New York, and of course we know people in common, because that happens with Jews. He ends up being my buddy for this short Tashlich pilgrimage to the water.
We form a loose trail of wandering Jews following behind Amichai on the sidewalks of Hell’s Kitchen. He pushes our group to make Tashlich urgent: “What are you holding on to?” he asks the group. “I invite you to find someone and confide what you are shedding today: skin, memories, iPhone apps.”
What should I shed? (Where do I start?) An overconcern with others’ opinions. My obsession with productivity. My inability to hide judgment. Fear of failure.