system capable of processing life's experiences of pain and doubt more quickly and effectively than we previously thought. Our natural curiosity and joy can be felt more easily than we have ever considered. We just need to understand the inner code.
For the past twenty years I have been using the techniques you'll find in this book and training facilitators around the world to use them as well. We have all been continually astonished at how well they work—and how quickly. RIM student Steve Torneten received this note from a local real estate agent who had volunteered for a practice session: “I'm not sure what you did, but I've had six properties go under contract since then—about $995K of commissions. Thank you, thank you, thank you!” Similarly, another student Stephanie did a practice session with her fitness trainer. He was so grateful for his results, he gave her twelve free sessions.
The RIM in the RIM Method stands for Regenerating Images in Memory (RIM®), and the real-life stories of client experiences in this book have been guided by myself or certified facilitators I have trained. Although every story is authentic, client identities are protected, and their narratives have been condensed to only the critical moments in their RIM experiences.
RIM introduces a new paradigm or novel view of how our emotional system works. Turning away from the idea that painful experiences and feelings fracture or permanently damage you, RIM works on the principle that you have an emotional operating system that organically knows how to deepen positive feelings and dissolve painful ones. Given this inherent internal resourcefulness, the process is client-generated and guided by inner sensation and imagination. The many stories you read in this book will grow your conscious and unconscious expectation of what's possible. As your belief expands, greater personal results become possible. You may decide to go on this adventure with a book club. Transformation is easier and more fun when shared.
Since RIM is nonlinear (not protocol or logic driven), your left brain may be frustrated because it's used to knowing what to expect. Although that's how the rational mind works, it's not the nature of the unconscious, which has a mind of its own.
To learn more about how RIM works, take a look at the Questions & Answers section at the back of the book. But there's more: your purchase of this book includes a gift of an audio meditation of a Practice It Yourself session, so you can bring the process alive in the comfort of your own home. Find this gift and others at www.GoodbyeHurtandPain.com.
Congratulations, you are on a personal quest to clear hidden, stuck emotion that has been stopping you from having what you want. By reading this book, you are freeing yourself to have your best life. In the coming pages, you'll learn seven exhilarating discoveries about your emotions; this self-understanding will change the way you see yourself and the power of your inner resources. The amazing real-life stories will expand your conscious thinking and unconscious beliefs to allow you to trust that saying goodbye to painful feelings and memories is easier than you've ever imagined. You'll learn to
trust the organic expiration of frightening feelings
quickly reduce overwhelming emotion to controllable form
unstick uncomfortable feelings
neutralize the magnetic charge of repetitive harmful behavior
find the gift of beauty in ugly feelings
uncover and express the sensation of wholeness through your mind and body
reconstitute memory for greater safety and aliveness
renew your emotional equilibrium whenever you need to
master emotions in the blink of an eye
Some of you will use this book to generate empowering changes within yourself. Some will change your lives in ways you didn't think possible. If you wish to be such a reader, set aside your expectations of what's possible. Enter these lessons with an open mind and welcome what you read as personally attainable. If you find yourself doubting or confused, persevere by engaging in the Practice It Yourself sessions regularly and often.
Though I write with intention, your subjective reading has a life of its own—it's yours to experience. . . . Enjoy!
FLOW & GO Your Feelings Have a Natural Shelf Life
Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.
—ALBERT EINSTEIN
Your intellect may be confused, but your emotions will never lie to you.
—ROGER EBERT
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.
—KHALIL GIBRAN
When you allow the organic flow of feelings, they bring valuable information and naturally expire as you move effortlessly forward. Kris, John, and Nancy show you how it works in the following stories.
KRIS'S STORY: WHEN EMOTIONS GO UNDERGROUND
Kris is a vital forty-nine-year-old manager. Married with two young adult children, she and her husband Rich are filling their empty nest with lots of playfulness. For her birthday, he buys her a beautiful, pink mountain bike, and they head to Moab for an exciting adventure. The sun is shining; the trail is wide open. And then it happens: Kris hits a bump and goes flying. Fortunately, her head is protected by her helmet, but her left leg is shattered on impact. Seeing her tibia poking through the ruptured skin causes her and Rich to grow faint, until Rich comes to his senses and calls for emergency help. Thank God there is cell service.
At the small hospital nearby, Kris lies on a gurney swimming in anxiety when the doctor appears: “Don't worry, Kris, we'll get you stabilized and then send you to Salt Lake for surgery where they have better resources to repair the complexity of this break.”
Hearing these words, Kris's anxiety ramps up, and her mind races with unanswerable worries: “Will I be okay? Will I walk again? Will I have a limp? What's going to happen? If only I had seen that rock on the trail. I can't believe it. Is this really me lying in the ER? Could I be dreaming?”
As the intensity of her concerns increase, so do her symptoms. Her blood pressure drops, and her chest constricts and tightens. She begins to quiver, and her breathing stops. Panicked like a swimmer inhaling water rather than oxygen, she feels she is dying. “Help me, help me, somebody help me!” she screams silently, feeling like she is in one of those dreams where you try to yell and can't!
The ER staff recognizes this is not a panic attack, but something more serious, and quickly treats her for life-threatening anaphylactic shock. As her symptoms recede, she learns she has experienced an allergic reaction to one of the medications.
The next day, Kris is taken by ambulance to a medical center in Salt Lake City. Her surgery is successful, and after a few weeks of rehab, she is discharged home. It soon looks like she is
