The Woman's Book of Resilience. Beth Miller

      CONARI PRESS

      First published in 2005 by Conari Press,

      an imprint of Red Wheel/Weiser, LLC

      York Beach, ME

      With offices at:

      368 Congress Street

      Boston, MA 02210

      www.redwheelweiser.com Copyright © 2005 Beth Miller

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      Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

      Miller, Beth

      The woman's book of resilience : 12 qualities to cultivate / Beth Miller.

      p. cm.

      Includes bibliographical references and index.

      ISBN 1-57324-964-5 (alk. paper)

      1. Women-Psychology. 2. Resilience (Personality trait) 3. Self-realization in women. 4. Self-actualization (Psychology)—Problems, exercises, etc.

      5. Self-management (Psychology)—Problems, exercises, etc. I. Title.

      HQ1206.M498 2005

      155.6'33—dc22

      2004018757

      Typeset in Dante by Gopa & Ted2, Inc.

      Printed in Canada

      TCP

      12 11 10 09 08 07 06 05

      8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1

       contents

       Foreword

       Introduction

       1 Undressing: I Am Open

       I Will Admit and Embrace My Vulnerability

       2 Who Do You Call at 3 A.M.?

       I Will Practice and Increase My Ability to Connect

       3 Hands On, Hands Off

       I Will Find Parts of the Problem That I Can Manage

       4 Not That One, This One

       I Will Discover and Get My Needs Met

       5 Look Ma, I Am Dancing on My Toes

       I Will Recognize and Develop My Own Special Gifts and Talents

       6 That's Close Enough

       I Will Develop My Ability to Say No

       7 Poison or Pearls

       I Will Increase My Ability to Transform Resentment and Forgive

       8 Now That's Funny!

       I Will Develop and Use My Sense of Humor to Help Me Through Stressful Situations

       9 Staying Power, Leaving Power

       I Will Explore the Range of Responses and Possibilities and Find Ways to Improve Things

       10 Can't Take Any More, or Can I?

       I Will Endure Suffering

       11 Diving for the Pearl

       I Will Find Meaning in the Crisis

       12 Pearls of Great Price

       I Will Stand Alone, Independent in Thought and Action, But I Will Not Be Afraid or Reluctant to Rely on Others

       Epilogue