REDEMPTION
TIM ELHAJJ
CENTRAL RECOVERY PRESS
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Central Recovery Press, Las Vegas, NV 89129
©2011 by Tim Elhajj
ISBN 10: 1-936290-63-4 ISBN 13: 978-1-936290-63-5 ISBN 10: 1-936290-90-1 (e-book) ISBN 13: 978-1-936290-90-1 (e-book)
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The chapter “Honesty” first appeared in Brevity as “Jimi Don’t Play Here No More.”
Author’s photo by Kennedy Elhajj. Copyright ©2009. Used by permission.
Excerpt from This Boy’s Life, copyright ©1989 by Tobias Wolff. Used by permission of Grove/Atlantic, Inc.
Cover design and interior by Sara Streifel, Think Creative Design
For
Timothy, Aaron, Kennedy,
Jasmine, and Jade
TABLE OF CONTENTS
CHAPTER 3 FAITH
CHAPTER 4 COURAGE
CHAPTER 5 INTEGRITY
CHAPTER 6 WILLINGNESS
CHAPTER 7 HUMILITY
CHAPTER 8 BROTHERLY LOVE
CHAPTER 9 JUSTICE
CHAPTER 10 PERSEVERANCE
CHAPTER 11 SPIRITUAL AWARENESS
CHAPTER 12 SERVICE
Epilogue
I’d like to thank Holly Huckeba for her insightful comments and many close readings of this book. In the final days of pulling the manuscript through revision, I thought I was losing my mind. Each time that happened, Holly helped me find it again. What a great friend. I’d also like to thank Gary Presley, Grace Skibicki, Diane Diekman, Kathleen Purcell and the many other participants of the nonfiction group at The Internet Writing Workshop for their support, advice, and encouragement. This is a much better book as a result of their help.
After I got out of rehab this last time, I tried to work the Twelve Steps perfectly. I struggled with the idea of progress, not perfection. A friend of mine took me aside and said, “Each day you stay away from drugs and alcohol, you work one or more of the steps whether you know it or not.” What a relief. I’ve tried to make progress with the steps this same way for more than twenty years now. But some habits die hard, and while writing this book, I again tried to be perfect—getting each detail completely accurate. At one point, my son pointed out that one of the vehicles I had remembered as a truck was actually a compact car. In the spirit of progress, not perfection, I am standing by my own fuzzy memory and allowing some of these discrepancies to stand. For, as Tobias Wolff pointed out in This Boy’s Life, “memory has its own story to tell.”
I want to thank my publisher, CRP, for giving me the opportunity to write about my recovery. CRP bought this manuscript on proposal, which means that the book hadn’t been completed when it was purchased. I think it’s safe to say that we were all surprised with what I eventually produced. I was delighted by how well it turned out. CRP, meanwhile, seemed a little taken aback with some of my experiences and even the way in which I told about them. You’ll find mostly deceit in the chapter titled “Honesty.” A zombie appears in the chapter titled “Faith.” And let’s not even get into what happens in the “Integrity” chapter. We traded emails. We had phone calls. I wasn’t sure what would happen. Finally, Nancy Schenck, the Executive Editor at CRP, told me she would support my vision for this book. I am so grateful for the faith that she has placed in me and in my story.
I am the first to admit that my recovery has not followed the typical path you hear about in most meetings. I am not one for moralizing, nor am I eager to play the role of provocateur. However, I do feel strongly that our stories are the most powerful tools we own. To shape our stories to fit some preconceived mold is unfair to people new to recovery, who may be struggling to understand what changes need to be wrought in their own
