from my wife, Kathryn: if I didn't change, she would leave me. It jumpstarted my work and my entire life, but not overnight. I didn't have a system to follow or a path planned out. I had a whole lot of trial and error. I had to construct my own system and process for breakthroughs. What I landed on, what worked best, was, in essence, the breakthrough formula David elaborates on in this book.
It took me awhile to accept that I need to work on my breakthrough every day. My breakthrough into positivity is as much a daily practice as brushing my teeth. I don't always look forward to it, but I know it is essential for my health, my marriage, and my career.
Early in my breakthrough, I wrote my first book, The Energy Bus, in a three‐and‐a‐half‐week fit of inspiration. It wasn't an instantaneous bestseller. I kept working on the breakthrough process every day and after five years, it finally became a bestseller. Now, fifteen years later, it still appears on the bestseller lists.
Since The Energy Bus, I've published a total of twenty‐four books, and twelve have become bestsellers. It's a testament to the power of my breakthrough and the service I can provide to a world that needs positivity. It's an even greater testament to the people I work with. Without the ultimate team around me, I couldn't do anything that I do today—from my publishers at Wiley to my editors and advanced readers, and each and every person who reads my books. And, of course, to my beautiful wife, Kathryn, and my amazing family. The greatest breakthroughs don't just happen alone. They happen in cooperation with the team you have around you. If I didn't surround myself with great people who support me and are willing to challenge me, none of this would be possible.
One of the most rewarding parts of my life is being part of other people's breakthrough teams. I believe we are all called to be mentors and share what we have learned to help others grow. When I met David Nurse four years ago, I saw something rare in him. But truth be told, we didn't become fast friends. I needed to know he was on an actual mission for a bigger purpose. I kept my distance.
Despite my reservations, David would text me to check in, to see how I was doing, to just ask if there was any way he could serve me or help me with anything. He never asked anything for himself, just offered to give. After a while, I was too curious to keep my distance. Who was this guy? And why did he keep staying in touch?
I took David out for dinner, and I knew immediately what made David so different. Positivity. Optimism. They come naturally to David. They pour out of him, and it's infectious to be around. From epic three‐hour tennis battles, road trips to NBA games to watch our friends coach, or just eating great food together and trying to solve the world's problems, I am proud to help David grow his mission. His natural positivity also helps refine and shape who I am. Iron sharpens iron.
David is a breakthrough waiting to happen. His gifts allow him to bring out the best in others. David is a great leader, a powerful author, and a person on a mission to show people how to experience their personal breakthroughs. Once you open yourself up to his system, you won't just experience a breakthrough. You will be the breakthrough.
Life is a series of breakthroughs, from breaking through in our marriages and finding true unconditional love with our spouse; breaking through in our faith and discovering a true personal relationship with God; and breaking through in our careers, harvesting the fruit of all our relentless labor. It can never be just given to us, and it sure doesn't happen overnight. Those of us who are committed to breaking through usually go through a lot of trial and error to reach a single point of clarity. David's mixture of drive and optimism helps him construct the universal formulas that help you experience regularly occurring breakthroughs. In reading this book you will see and understand exactly what I'm talking about.
The life you have always wanted to live is waiting for you to break through. Let this be your breakthrough moment.
FOREWORD
by Taylor Kalupa
I know every career relies on breakthroughs to flourish, but Hollywood actors are as dependent on them as comic book superheroes. You can be the most talented, most captivating, best‐positioned person on the planet, but you just don't have a career until you catch the attention of an agent, a casting director, or a unicorn.
I caught my first Hollywood breakthrough opportunity starring in Dave Navarro's “Rexall.” Though I was only ten, I joined a long list of stars who were introduced to the world in music videos—a club that includes household names like Matthew McConaughey, Eva Mendes, and Courtney Cox. I remember standing in line at Disney World shortly after it premiered on MTV; multiple teenagers and adults stopped me to tell me they recognized me. And kids at my elementary school excitedly ran up to me at recess to say they saw me on TV the night before.
But breakthroughs are bigger than just opportunities—getting a shot at the biggest stage on earth doesn't propel you into the skies if you don't nurture your talent, your team, and your purpose. Whether someone gave us our first chances to shine because of our extraordinary talent, our intensive training, our physical appearances, our last names and connections, or simply because we were standing in exactly the right spot at the perfect time, it was up to us to make the most of those breakthrough music video opportunities and turn them into lasting breakthrough roles.
Admittedly, I didn't. I wasn't that interested or invested. Even though I grew up with the bright lights of Hollywood in my backyard and had my first breakthrough opportunity in grade school, I didn't dream about seeing my name up on marquees. Actually, my most notable childhood dream was of my future husband. He wasn't anyone I knew; I didn't even have a super clear view of his face. But I would always remember his kind, bright golden‐green eyes.
No, it took another twelve years before I was bitten by the acting bug. I'd already earned a business degree and was on the path to becoming a lawyer, so when I set my sights on securing my own Hollywood star, I needed to hustle and build my momentum back up from scratch. I needed to prepare my life for the next breakthrough opportunity; without a guarantee or a system (much less a well‐constructed formula!), there were times when getting ready for the breakthrough was a real struggle.
November 2017 was rough. I was stuck in the revolving studio doors, auditioning for pilots I rarely heard back from. I'd taken over casting an entire project for a friend while she was on leave, so I was working endlessly long days. I was trying my best to produce a true story movie with zero experience and no real guidance or connections. And I was being treated for Lyme disease, which, thankfully, was caught early, but nevertheless struck me hard. Time and energy were at a premium.
I was memorizing another scene for an audition the next day when I got a text from a guy I'd known in college—sort of. Rich had been on Pepperdine's basketball team while I was on the dance team, so we'd really more known of each other. I had helped Rich in the past by answering questions for his younger brother about how to get into acting, but we'd never been great friends and we hadn't spoken in two years. I'll admit it—I groaned when I read, “Hey Taylor, I have a buddy who wants to get into acting. Would you be able to meet with him and give him some pointers?”
Not one part of me actually wanted to meet up with the type of oblivious stranger who asked friends of friends of acquaintances vague questions like “How do you get into acting?” I had less than no time and I was well into an energy deficit, and I couldn't imagine how to find more of either one to politely explain what it really takes and how rare it is to even get a role in a show.
But I'd committed to living in service mode, to giving whenever I could. I spent day after day asking strangers to give me a shot, to help me improve, to stake their success on my efforts—and if I couldn't find the time and energy to serve this stranger who was asking the same of me, how could I keep asking it of others? I agreed to meet Rich's friend for coffee.
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