of your vagina are the tightest and the most sensitive when you are being penetrated. This is due to the fact that this area will fill with blood and become engorged.
Despite popular belief, you cannot accurately determine how turned on a woman is just by her vaginal wetness. It's possible to be highly aroused and have a completely dry vagina. Most of the time your ability to self-lubricate will be affected by a couple of things: your level of estrogen or other hormones can greatly change at certain times, such as, for example, if you are stressed, sick, have a poor diet, or depending on where you are with your menstrual cycle. As is well documented that as you reach the menopause vaginal dryness is much more common due to your body producing less estrogen, but this is easily overcome by adding some personal lubricant into the mix.
Exercise:
If you are comfortable with inserting a finger into your vagina then you can try this exercise. If you aren't, it's fine to wait until you are comfortable with doing so.
Place your finger into your vagina and feel around. I swear it won't bite. Take a moment to get used to both the feeling of your vagina being filled and also how your vagina feels.
Butt
So, I know what you’re thinking! Why on earth would I put this into a book about female masturbation? The simple answer is: everyone has a butt and although, it's true, that it is always lagging behind, it can be a source of great foreplay when it comes to solo sex.
Exercise:
Have you ever tried slapping your butt, either gently or with greater force? Just try it and you might just be surprised by the way your body responds to a slap when you are in the right frame of mine to be sexy and flirty with yourself. Try varying the pressure you use and see which type of pressure, if any, has an effect on you.
Anus and Perineum
Since time began, the anus has been accepted as an erogenous zone. The walls of your anus are packed jam-full of nerve endings and can provide a great deal of pleasure. The other part of your anatomy that you may gain pleasure from playing with is your perineum, which is located between your vaginal opening and your anus. This area also contains many, many nerve and can be very pleasurable to touch. Of course the anus is an area that is generally associated with poo, and for good reason, as this is where your body expels its waste. There are a couple of precautions you can, and should, take if you consider playing with your anus, especially anal penetration. I would strongly recommend that you invest in some latex gloves and make sure your fingernails are trimmed before you begin any type of anal play. The other is that the anus, unlike the vagina, does not self-lubricate and a good water-based lube can make any form of penetration a more pleasurable experience, and a safer one, as it is possible to tear the delicate muscles of the sphincter.
Exercise:
If you want to see if anal masturbation might be for you, I suggest you grab those latex gloves I just told you to buy, unless of course you have a latex allergy, and some of that water-based lube, and begin to explore. Start by pressing against your perineum and see how your body reacts. The most important thing to remember with any type of anal play is that you need to relax, especially if you decide to try penetration. If you do want to go further, start by exploring your anal opening, and then gently push your finger up and inside yourself. Start gently and with plenty of lube. If it hurts, then I suggest you stop, as you are too tense to receive your finger or even the top of your finger.
Calves
For many guys your calves can be a huge turn-on. It's the one reason that there are so many pictures of women wearing high heels. High heels accentuate your calves, and if you don't believe me, grab a pair of heels, head for the nearest full-length mirror and take a look at your calves with and without the heels on your feet. Now, can you see the difference?
Exercise:
Try wearing heels that you are comfortable wearing when you are getting ready for a solo session. If you are not someone who normally wears heels you will likely feel different and as you walk past a mirror you might well find yourself admiring your legs, and seeing them in a different light.
Feet and Toes
I will state for the record here that my toes and feet do not have a sexual bone in them, but this is not true for many women. Just as some men focus on their partner’s feet and toes, some women find touching theirs can be a pleasurable experience. Others, like myself, don't, but you will never know unless you try.
Exercise:
Start by wetting your hands, and especially your fingertips, and spend some time playing with your feet and toes. Imagine your partner’s tongue lapping over and between your toes as you explore with your fingertips and see what reactions you garner from your own feet and toes.
Conclusion:
Knowing your own anatomy can be a great way to start not only understanding how your body works sexually, but also what you may or may not enjoy whilst you are playing with a partner. The exercises above are just suggestions to help you get comfortable with your own body, but if you are not comfortable trying any of them, please feel free to ignore them until you are ready. This is your body and the great thing about owning it is that you can, and should, take things at your own pace. The idea, as I’ve said before, is for you to be able to become comfortable within your own skin. Once you have achieved that goal, the sky, as they say, is the limit!
Where Did It All Begin?
It's quite likely that men and women have been masturbating since the beginning of time. In order to understand just why and how masturbation became partnered sex's ugly sister, we need to travel back in time. So I climbed into my own version of the Tardis a few years ago and travelled back into history. What follows are my findings as to why we have both the myths and stigma that may have, to some degree, dissipated, but that still hold many women back from enjoying all the pleasures their bodies are capable of achieving.
Beginning of Time: The Bible Edition
Before you get mad at me, I swear I'm not trying to be provocative here with that particular title, but it's hard to deny that religion and the belief that masturbation is wrong go hand in hand and the only way to discover why is to go back in time and find out. It would be remiss of me not to take a look at how these two things are linked.
It is often commonly assumed that The Bible specifically forbids masturbation. This belief has grown, in no small part, thanks to the story of Onan. Onan's story can be found in the book of Genesis, and to be more specific, chapter thirty-eight. In this chapter, Onan was required to marry his brother's widow and, more importantly, to provide her with a child who would then inherit his brother's estate. This was the Jewish practice at the time The Bible was penned.
Now if we look at the annotated Bible passage it, in fact, reads that since Onan knew that the offspring would not be his, he spilled his semen on the
