is exactly what happens quite often.
The fact of thinking about things we donât want to happen and constantly examining them makes our subconscious take us seriously.
This is because it just acts upon our orders, without judging them: if you remember the crew metaphor, the crew does not argue.
It just acts upon the captainâs orders without questioning.
Hence the importance of giving the right orders, a topic we will deal with later.
Each of our actions is always pushed by desire.
If desire wasnât there, we would simply not act at all.
It is clear then that we are not pushed by ANY desire, but only by that or those of greater intensity.
When it comes to the issue of the intensity of desire, the questions we should ask ourselves are whether life is continuously permeated by desire or not and what contributes to make our wishes â from the simplest to the most difficult one â to become reality, or better said, OUR reality.
We might say there are three steps that desires must go through in order to become reality.
The first one is the intensity of desire.
The second one is the confident patience for the wish to come true.
The third one is the persistent and constant will directed towards the desire itself.
At the base of any desire stays its intensity, and the more difficult it is to become true, the more intensity grows together with our longing for it to become reality.
The intensity of desire is the fire that lights the fuse that will make our capabilities ignite, a fundamental element without which our potential bomb could not be triggered at all.
Such intensity will determine the degree to which we will be able to yearn for that desire.
This happens because wishes that come about as temporary whims and just fade away to leave place to other whims wonât ever become reality and will always lack the right amount intensity to translate into reality.
The intensity of desires is what pushes us to fight in order to make them become true, as this is precisely the way we should think about that intensity: as a struggle aimed at conquering what we long for.
However, this strength alone is not enough, as it inexorably wanes if you make mistakes on the second step of realization, that is, the wait for our wish to become true sooner or later, the determination not to give up upon the first hit or the first fall to the ground.
The wait is a mandatory and fundamental step.
Think about the plan to build a house, something that is born out of the desire to have a house with a particular structure.
Once I settle this, the house does not automatically become reality.
It actually needs time to be built and unexpected events might occur during the construction process, something that would affect the initial plan and lengthen the wait.
However, the builder with a steady goal in his mind will not give up against those issues and will eventually get what he longs for.
Whatever the desire is, be it something that implies being in a particular way or getting something from the outside world, the right attitude is believing that the wish will become true sooner or later precisely because we will keep wanting it to.
In other words, I wonât ever get anything if I donât even expect I will be able to get something and if I donât lead my inner world towards a particular destination, through desire.
All of this can easily be misunderstood because, as one might argue: âI want to be richâ â but an old proverb says âHe who lives hopingâ¦â. [1]
Weâre not referring here to simple hope but rather to confident wait.
I know I will get that particular thing because my desire is strong and my will is constantly directed at the achievement of my objective.
To rephrase, a desire is forcefully originated in the realm of thoughts and such desire becomes a confident wait in my feelings which, combined with my will, push towards the direction of its realization.
This is not mere mental conjecture: If we looked at anything that has been invented or to any achieved result, and so forth we would realize that it has all gone through this way.
Everything that exists couldnât have existed at all without the presence of a desire for it to be, first of all on a mental level.
Any idea is born out of desire.
Even Archimedes in his bath tub, when he was hit by the intuition that made him utter âEureka!â, had the wish to discover that thing, otherwise the idea wouldâve simply waned and disappeared in absence of fertile soil and a mind suited to understand and put things in practice.
Self-confidence is the best quality we can master, itâs the fundamental ingredient in order to achieve success in addition to hope (in the sense of optimism), and both must go through rationality.
Without optimism, confidence or hope our energies just die out, we stop fighting and we throw in the towel.
Weâre now arrived at the third necessary step, that of the will constantly directed towards achievement.
Will is an exceptional strength at our disposal and it literally enables us to turn the world upside down.
Will is powerful and unlimited in terms of availability and capability.
This means that if we want something â hence we wish for it in the first place â and if we turn steadily towards what we want we will eventually get it (hereâs the concept of confident wait) exactly because we went through all these necessary steps.
However, will needs something to trigger it and that is nothing but the burning desire.
Hereâs how the circle closes and opens all over again.
Thereâs no escape from this law: if one applies it, the goal will always be achieved, even if â as we said before â things were the other way around.
If we didnât wish for a certain thing (which still makes it a wish), that constant thought turned into confident wait and we also acted through our force of will by wishing that particular thing not to happen at all.
Will is acting concretely in order to turn our wish into reality and it is also what turns the mechanism on.
Most of the people who think they cannot make their wishes come true think so because they long for something passively, just dreaming or imagining it.
They lack the fundamental confidence to believe that wish to be feasible and, as a consequence, they cannot draw from their will in order to act towards the wish itself.
We just need to know this and put it in practice.
