is useful not only for success, but for human life in general. The results of scientific research prove that optimism is extremely beneficial for human health, namely:
– prevents the emergence of helplessness and hopelessness, helps to increase immunity;
– directs you to a healthy lifestyle, encourages you to visit a doctor if something bothers you;
– helps to build relations with friends and companions, contributing to the formation of social support in people, which is one of the important conditions for protecting health.
Dear readers, be optimistic in life, consider your defeats as a temporary phenomenon, remember that everything goes away, take accidents as a chance and, on the contrary, take pleasant things as regular. You will overcome your path to luck as long as you are optimistic.
One of the aspects in achieving the goal, in my opinion, is the ability to plan an adjusted life. I think when you lead a spontaneous life, designed more for chance than for inevitability, or when everything is derailed, like we say, «come what may,» there is no point in waiting for luck.
Plan your life in the form of a local (everyday) and global (stage you are aiming at) steps, and then just follow the line. It is advisable that the time of waking up, eating, working hours, as well as leisure time, be strictly on schedule. If you are studying, it is advisable to find out for yourself in which area you will work and what level you are aiming at. If you work, it is useful to know which mark you want to leave in this life and which people you want to have on the same level. In a planned life, you will rarely face accidents, artificially created obstacles or lowered barriers. Leading a spontaneous, chaotic life, one has to stumble upon constant surprises and inexplicable situations.
On your way to luck, friends, proceed according to your plan.
Having multiple plans is another important factor on the path to success. If you look into the biography of successful leaders, you can clearly trace plans A, B or even C in their activities. Acting according to one plan means to suspend the struggle at the first defeat. Side plans will help you continue the struggle and give an additional chance to win no matter what.
At the very end, let’s talk about self-confidence, the most important parameter in achieving a goal. Self-confidence is the starting point in all major acquisitions. If a person does not have this property, there is nothing to say about luck. Self-confidence is the belief that you can achieve everything, faith when you find yourself in a difficult situation and encounter a very difficult case.
How to believe in yourself? It seems to be a common question, but at the same time it points to situations with a difficult solution.
– First of all, dear reader, take advantage of auto-training like «there is nothing incomprehensible, I can do everything», «I just need a little time, in the end I will laugh.» This will help get rid of the illusion of insolubility on the path to success. It happens that a person artificially overrates some minor flaws and brings them to the level of insoluble problems. As a result, he panics and goes astray, which is totally unacceptable.
One of the destructive factors of self-confidence is to take a loser as an example. You may panic thinking that if the person who tried earlier didn’t succeed, then it wouldn’t work for me either. Follow the postulate «every situation is unique, all people are different», and don’t try to take an example from someone else. Well, if you still decide to follow someone’s example, then follow the example of a successful person.
– The next way to strengthen your confidence is to remember past victories and look back at your luck. This will give you an additional incentive and add strength.
– The next detail of building self-confidence is to stay in reality and not to hover in the clouds. In what sense? Sometimes we draw plans and build illusions about doing things that exceed our capabilities. Some of us can become millionaires, Olympic champions or presidents, but for many people this is completely impossible. There are billions of people in the world, and only the elite are given to overcome the peaks. Please note: when a person raves about the idea of being elected, having no prerequisites, in the end he condemns himself to failure, and his self-confidence is undermined. Therefore, don’t try to bite more than you can chew. Try to experience confidence on real plans.
– An important factor in strengthening a sense of self-confidence is to have a personal position, a reasonable ordering of priorities, as well as to avoid stressful situations and depression. I intend to give detailed information about these factors in other chapters of my book.
So, in this chapter we talked about 15 basic qualities necessary for success. I think it will not be difficult for you to remember them.
11. Factor of Heredity in Becoming a «Lucky» One
We are the descendants of the Maharramovs. My great-grandfather was called Sattar, my grandfather was Alibal, and my father was called Sattar. My name is Alibala, and my son is Sattar. I will also call my grandson Alibal. I am one of those who believe in the energy of names. It seems to me that every person in a family tree continues the fate of his predecessors.
Remember a relay race in athletics competitions. Passing the wand from hand to hand, team members are approaching the finish line. The existence of a pedigree is also possible only by transferring the genetic code from birth to the very end.
Fr centuries our family tree consisted of scientists and doctors, and all of us had fairly high success rates.
I want to talk about my paternal grandfather who has three sons, each of whom was a Doctor of Science. About Alibal Maharramov. Over his 65 years of life, he received the glorious title of «People’s elder», taught many people medicine, as well as the laws of life, the depth of human relations, and was considered a symbol of a successful person worthy to be emulated, including on my part.
My grandfather was a maximalist. No matter what he did, he achieved the perfect result. He was a dentist and was considered a well-known specialist in our district; patients came from everywhere. Besides the fact that he treated his patients, he taught young people the secrets of healing, educating his followers.
Grandfather was a famous public figure. In addition to the authority of the elder, he treasured his status as well. Each newly appointed head of the district considered his first duty to meet my grandfather and receive approval from him. It has become a sort of tradition. Even in the era of intense communism, when people were oppressed for their religious views, the delegation that arrived in Soviet Azerbaijan from Saudi Arabia, the cradle of the holy monuments of Islam, sent the republic leaders to Guba to meet my grandpa.
My grandfather’s surrounding was composed of academics, public and political figures and noble cultural figures. The famous Azerbaijani and Soviet poet of those years, Samed Vurgun, was also a friend of my grandfather. Each time the poet came to meet with my grandfather, the entire population of Guba came to look at them.
Grandfather was an amazing conversationalist, knew a lot of sayings, parables and legends. Everyone wanted to have a conversation with him and each time they learned something new.
This man had endless energy. He always tried to create something and leave a good mark everywhere after himself. He planted a garden with all kinds of flowers from different parts of the world. People came, one by one, to take a look at his asters, gladiolus, chrysanthemums, gloriosas, callas, irises, crocuses, lavender, lilies, lotuses, magnolias, orchids for the first time in their lives.
Grandfather also created a real zoo, which was inhabited by a gazelle, a falcon, a peacock and different types of partridges.
