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Love Your Divorce
by
Dr. Dena Churchill
Published by:
International Health Publishing
Carrollton, TX USA
www.InternationalHealthPublishing.com
phone: (978) 846-1964
e-mail: [email protected]
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The author is not offering medical advice or recommending any treatment, technique, or therapy without the direct or indirect consultation of a physician. The content within this book is intended as information of a general nature. The publisher and the author assume no responsibility for your actions.
Copyright © 2012 by Dena G. Churchill
First paperback printing January 2010
ISBN-13: 978-0-9818-3533-4
Foreword
This book is a powerful survival guide so that you can thrive despite divorce! It is written from my personal experience as a mother before, during and after the traumatic process of divorce. However the point I share is this: it need not be traumatic! This book is in fact intended to be an inspirational self-help opportunity!
By reading this book, it will demystify this bewildering process, giving you guidance and enabling both you and your (former) partner to understand and deal (and heal) with this new life situation. After all none of us were formally taught, expect nor are we prepared for the change it brings emotionally, financially and socially. Divorce is an intense process involving the government, attorneys, family and friends.
What is divorce, really? If you reflect then you may agree that “Divorce” is nothing but a useful label! Divorce is also a courageous journey and in fact a tremendous opportunity for growth! Therefore, I sincerely offer you heartfelt “Congratulations!”
You have found the power to make a change! The gap between where you were before and where you will be in future holds inspirational divine moments waiting to be experienced. In life, we are always arriving in the gap! The question is whether one arrives in style or misery. This book will show you to turn up with your head held high – in style!
Between these pages, I will help you answer questions that you may have about both divorce and about yourself. I will share powerful resources and unique experience that I have gathered through my own journey. I will empower you along your own unique path. You know that you are not alone! Everyday in every nation, in every city, many others also decide to make a change in their lives - and divorce.
Let this divorce be the testing ground for the next divine lesson. In the words of our Star Wars Gurus when approaching any new endeavor: “May the force be with you!”
There are many to thank and acknowledge throughout my divorce and book preparation but none of this would be possible without my former spouse. He is the one to whom I dedicate this book and offer my sincere love and gratitude for this journey!
If you like my dedication, then consider making a private dedication to your former spouse too! After all they have given you some wonderful experiences over the period of your life called “marriage”. Those wonderful experiences will always live onwards if you let them. And there are many “m-a-n-y” new and vibrant experiences waiting for you right around the corner in your life! This is a world of unlimited possibilities!
Chapter 1
Divinity and the Wax Maker
Divinity is a cosmic word to pair with divorce. Unifying these words together holds the essence to the answer you seek in your pathway of love and gratitude within the divorce. Divorce is nothing but true gratitude.
The concept of divinity is unique to each one of us. For some, it retains a definition from your religion or philosophy. For others synonyms include divine power, universal intelligence, innate wisdom, Grand Organized Design (God according to John Demartini), Holographic universe (Michael Talbot), or Divine Matrix (Greg Braden).
Simply, “divinity” is that which is often outside our perception that gives order to our world being omnipotent (all being), omnipresent (all present) and omniscience (all knowing).
If we assume that our world is based on our own perception then a position where all perceptions are seen at once is a greater awareness of intelligence. This greater awareness of intelligence is my divinity.
Our mind exists in a duality such that this divine awareness of the panoramic view is a matter of deduction based on trust, belief and confidence in all possibilities. This duality of input, receiving stimuli from the environment and actively responding is called ‘intelligence’. In addition to linear learning the human mind has the ability of thought, reason and logic and the ability to deduce a certain outcome in a quantum realm.
Rene Descartes maintained that deduction is the foundation of all knowledge, outside the limitations of our senses. Have you ever heard of the phrase “I think therefore I am”? Descartes was a 17th century French philosopher who popularized the phrase.
In his wax demonstration, he notes that a piece of wax when brought to a flame changes its characteristics from a solid to a liquid. Even though the data from the senses informs us that the forms are different we must deduce and trust that both forms are wax. Therefore, in order to properly grasp the nature of the wax, we cannot use the senses! Instead we must use our mind!
What does all this mean to you? It means that you have the ability to choose your perspective! If you entertain this powerful idea that the distinguished scholar Descartes discovered throughout this book, using your reason and logical deduction, it will enable you to liberate emotions and magically free you from your prison of fears and doubts. Can we hold our perception and at the same time realize that the exact opposite perception also exists?
Within the concepts of this book you will see love transform like the wax melting into different forms known to you as marriage and divorce. I invite you to step outside the box of your senses and find the alternate perspectives that exist along this journey.
The experience of being able to see these different forms, and understanding they are all parts of a loving matrix that surrounds us every minute of our life, grants us the faith, trust, confidence and security in a force at work outside our self. Remember the quote I stated earlier? “Let the force be with you!” The ability to go there in your perception is the key to divinity.
