all the peoples see his glory.
How does this passage speak to me today? How can I apply it to my life?
Lord, I present myself to You. Today I choose to rejoice and to look for Your glory.
WHISPERS OF WIDOWHOOD: RONDA'S STORY
You have sent me misery and hardship,
but you will give me life again,
you will pull me up again from the depths of the earth,
prolong my old age, and once more comfort me.
Psalm 71:20-21
(The Jerusalem Bible)
I became a widow on October 9, 1993. I was fifty-six when my husband, Martin Chervin, died suddenly of cardiac arrest. He was seventy-four. At the time we were living in Woodland Hills, California, in an extended family home with one of my twin daughters, Carla; her husband, Peter; and two of our little grandsons, Nicholas and Alexander.
The prospect of becoming a widow was not new to me. After all, I had married a man nearly twenty years my senior; early in our marriage I had acknowledged the possibility that I might be a widow one day. However, Martin was a man with incredible vitality and joie de vivre. We always joked that, compared to him, I was the oldster because of my sedentary, professorial lifestyle.
Unfortunately, the reality was very different. Only a few years after our marriage in 1962, my husband developed a serious form of asthma. By 1968 he was semi-disabled. He could no longer devote himself to his work as an international book salesman; instead he spent the better part of each day writing original plays such as Born/Unborn (a pro-life play about the evils of abortion), Myself: Alma Mahler (a one-woman show about the marriage of Alma and Gustav Mahler), and his recently published masterpiece, Children of the Breath (about the dialogue of Christ and Satan in the desert). Because my husband was too ill to support the family, I worked full-time as a professor of Catholic philosophy. I loved my work, and expected to continue it in one form or another until my own death.
In what ways were you and your husband complementary to each other? (Did your gifts correspond to his weaknesses, and vice versa?)
In what ways were you and your husband truly "partners"?
How have you experienced the truth of this passage from Psalms? "You have sent me misery and hardship, but You will give me life again, You will pull me up again from the depths of the earth, prolong my old age, and once more comfort me."
BLESSED MARGUERITE D'YOUVILLE: A STORY OF PATIENT ENDURANCE
“My dear Sisters, constantly remain faithful to the state which you have embraced: always walk the paths of steadfastness, obedience, and mortification - but above all, make the most perfect union reign among you."
Bl. Marguerite d'Youville
Blessed Marie-Marguerite d'Youville (d. 1771), born Marguerite Dufrost de la Jemmerais, was one of six children born to parents of French ancestry in Quebec, Canada. As a girl, Marguerite spent most of her time helping her mother tend to her younger siblings.
The comfortable farming family was brought low by the death of her father, but they lived as best they could off the land. As was the custom, eleven-year-old Marguerite was sent to an Ursuline convent school; she was unusually bright, and had a peaceful nature. Here Marguerite developed a devotion to the Sacred Heart.
Though she was attracted to the religious life, Marguerite assumed she would marry one day. The man her family picked for her, Francois d'Youville, happened to be handsome and wealthy. Unfortunately the marriage turned out tragically. Francois was often gone on trading expeditions that involved bribing the Indians to give up valuable furs for "fire water."
Equally difficult was Marguerite's domestic situation. Although she was a creative and experienced homemaker, the young woman found herself completely under the domination of a bitter, jealous mother-in-law who resented the beauty, charm, and refined virtues of her son's wife. To make matters worse, Marguerite's husband soon showed himself to be crude, selfish, and indifferent. He left for long periods of time without explanation, and was absent for the birth of their first child - busy trading liquor for furs.
She wept bitter tears when she realized how difficult her situation was to be, but she made up her mind never to criticize him, even though his behavior became more and more ignoble. Her misery was compounded when their infant son died. She gave the next child her husband's name, hoping that this would soften his heart. But he was also absent for this boy's birth and baptism. Their little girl, Marie, died as a baby; the next child, Louise, lived less than three months.
After the death of his mother, Francois gave himself up to a completely dissipated life of drinking, carousing, and gambling. He squandered all the family money, leaving Marguerite to work hard to provide for necessities. She also had to endure the disgust of the people of Montreal, enduring their sneers and reproaches when she stepped out with her baby to go to the marketplace.
Desperately Marguerite tried by prayer and example to convert her husband, lest his soul be damned for eternity. The future saint took solace in joining the Confraternity of the Holy Family, in this way taking as her own the family of Jesus, Mary, and Joseph. Under the guidance of a fine priest she learned how to sanctify the pain of her life day by day. The priest predicted that God would accomplish a great work through her one day.
Marguerite's husband died suddenly from inflammation of the lungs. The young widow requested that the priests of the Church offer three hundred sixty Masses for his soul. In spite of his abusive behavior, she grieved his death. Destitute and burdened with debts, Marguerite was left with two children - one aged six, the other a baby. (The last child, Charles, eventually became a priest.)
"But whatever gains I had, these I have come to consider a loss because of Christ. More than that, I even consider everything as a loss because of the supreme good of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have accepted the loss of all things and I consider them so much rubbish, that I may gain Christ and be found in him, not having any righteousness of my own based on the law but
