The Space Between. Matthew Braddock

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evil rules the land

      We come into being

      Age after age

      And take visible shape

      And move

      A man among men

      For the protection of good

      Thrusting back evil

      And setting virtue

      On her seat again.

      Fischer writes,

      For those who think that justice means injuring those who injure us, error can be corrected by error, or evil can be vanquished by evil, spiritual activism and non-resistance help us join in common aims. We thrust back evil, set virtue aright, and claim our ability to tear down the barricades that keep us from one another, as Jesus, Gandhi, Martin, and so many others began and continue to do.

      For Conversation

      Spiritual activists can feel frightened by the magnitude of people, events, and systems that threaten our well-being. Non-violence does not mean that we remain indifferent to the problems. Non-violence also fosters a sense of compassion and caring. However, what happens when it all becomes too much? We may shut down due to compassion fatigue — making too much emotional connection. Constantly serving the needs of others can exhaust us. One antidote is to cultivate an open heart. We can develop open-heartedness by allowing ourselves to fully experience the emotions rocking around inside. We focus goodwill toward ourselves with the following phrases:

      May I be safe

      May I be peaceful

      May I be kind to myself

      May I accept myself just as I am.

      We can also ask some questions:

      In what ways does my activism and contemplation foster fatigue or anger in my life?

      In what ways does my contemplation and activism promote self-care, goodwill, energy, and compassion in my life?

      For Active Contemplation

      For Contemplative Action:

       Get to know your Conflict Style

      Spiritual activists will, no doubt, encounter conflict along the way. It is helpful to know how you handle conflict, and how members of your faith community deal with differences. Read each of the following statements and rate each response according to your most probable action or choice in each case. (1) will be your first choice, (2) will be your second choice, (3) will be your third choice, etc. Rank all five answers.

      1. You are about to go into a public meeting in which a new policy will be offered where there is much disagreement. Your perspective to this policy is quite different than the rest of the community. Resistance to the majority will likely annoy many of the people there. You are most likely to:

      1 Stand fast for your position.

      2 Look for some middle ground.

      3 Go along with the wishes of the majority.

      4 Remain silent during the meeting.

      5 Try to re-frame the issue so that all sides can be included in the solution.

      2. I would say the following about differences:

      1 Differences are to be expected and reflect the natural order: some have resources and others have none, some are correct, and some are wrong.

      2 Differences should be considered with the common good in mind. At times parties are obliged to lay aside their own views in the interest of the majority.

      3 Differences serve only to drive people apart and their personal implications cannot be ignored.

      4 Differences reflect the basic attributes of people and are largely beyond influence.

      5 Differences are a natural part of the human condition and are neither good nor bad.

      3. I would say the following regarding the nature of conflict

      1 Ultimately, right prevails. This is the central issue in conflict.

      2 Everyone should have an opportunity to air feelings so long as they do not block progress.

      3 Conflict requires self-sacrifice, the placing of the importance of continued relationships above one’s own needs and desires.

      4 Conflict is one of the evils in human affairs and should be accepted.

      5 Conflict is a symptom of tension in relationships, and when accurately interpreted, may be used to strengthen relationships.

      4. I would say the following regarding the handling of conflict:

      1 Persuasion, power, and force are all acceptable tools for achieving resolution and most expect them to be used.

      2 It is never possible for all people to be satisfied. Resolving conflict means persuasion combined with flexibility.

      3 It is better to ignore differences than to risk open conflict. It is better to maintain the basis of relationship than to risk it.

      4 Impersonal tolerance is the best way to handle conflict.

      5 Conflict resolution requires confrontation and problem solving, often going beyond the apparent needs and opinions of the parties involved.

      Based on your answers, how would you identify your dominant conflict resolution strategies? Each of the lettered answers for questions 1-4 point to a common conflict resolution style:

      1 Control or Competition (using power to win your position)

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