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FINUALA DOWLING
Notes
from the
dementia
ward
KWELA BOOKS/SNAILPRESS
1. At eighty-five, my mother’s mind
At eighty-five, my mother’s mind
When she wanders from room to room
looking for someone who isn’t there,
when she asks where we keep the spoons,
when she can’t chew and spits out her food,
when her last dim light flickers with falling ash
and she exclaims: ‘What a dismal end to a brilliant day!’
when she calls her regular laxative an astronaut,
when she can’t hear words but fears sounds,
when she says: ‘Don’t go – I can’t bear it when you go,’
or: ‘Just run me off the cliff,’
or wants to know how many Disprin ends it,
then I think how, at eighty-five,
my mother’s mind is a castle in ruin.
Time has raised her drawbridge, lopped her bastions.
Her balustrade is crumbled, and she leans.
Yet still you may walk these ramparts in awe.
Sometimes when she speaks, the ghostly ensign flies.
Time cannot hide what once stood here,
or its glory.
Do not think that we are good
or merely tourists.
That which detains us
was once our fortress.
2. Taking
Taking
After two years of house arrest –
what they call ‘home care’ –
I take the soiled sheets from my sister,
put them in the machine,
lift the heavy carpet,
break down.
The men come running,
take the carpet from me
(something to do).
Then I steady my mad mother
who, staggering downstairs in her frail bones
and failing sight,
takes me in her arms and asks:
‘What is the matter, darling?
Whatever is the matter?’
3. Shift aside
Shift aside
Those nights I lay awake, calculating our ages:
I was ten to your fifty,
would be fifteen to your fifty-five,
twenty to your sixty.
I pushed them as far as they would go:
thirty to seventy,
forty to eighty,
fifty to ninety.
The numbers toppled –
an orphan, at any age.
I stood in the dark doorway,
awaiting your invitation.
Sleepily, on your elbow,
you would ask: ‘A nightmare?’
and shift aside on the three-quarter bed.
Your back was warm;
your pillow fragrant.
These nights I lie awake calculating our ages:
I am forty-five to your eighty-five,
will be fifty to your ninety,
sixty to your century.
I stand in a lit-up doorway
– disinfectant upon human soil.
You wince slightly as you shift aside,
pat the space beside you: ‘Lie here.’
I wait only until you breathe evenly.
4. Mere oblivion
Mere oblivion
I cannot stop them;
they come with us,
my mother’s former selves:
blurred box-brownie baby from Ficksburg,
skinnymalinks hand-standing at the Wilderness,
buxom WAF officer in her pips,
aquiline actress, face turned to the light,
amused matriarch captioned ‘dear Octopus?’
unamused wife of an alcoholic,
glamorous widow,
charmer of bank managers,
sudden understudy:
drama teacher, estate agent, broadcaster and
at last, travelling grandmother
with quip, quote, recipe
and iodine for everything.
I cannot stop them;
they
