bedroom for an hour and made them some camomile tea with honey.
‘We won’t bother you again all week,’ promised Marie as she went back to class.
‘Thank you so much,’ said Sarah.
‘You didn’t forget to excuse us from class?’ asked Isabelle, making sure they didn’t get an absence marked on the computer.
‘You’re all excused. No need to worry,’ I assured them.
I had just let myself be played. They knew it, and they also knew I knew they knew. I suspect they felt obliged to push the limits. They had three new nurses, completely new to the world of boarding schools, and in these first few months everyone was still figuring out their boundaries. But if I was to continue treating these students like we were in a hospital trauma centre, I was never going to come out on top. I had to come up with another strategy, because if 90 per cent of the patients I had seen this morning had turned up to their local hospital, they would have been encouraged to turn away, or put at the back of the queue and wait hours to be seen.
Hospitals are great for treating accidents and the seriously unwell, but my role as a boarding school nurse was much more than just looking after the sick.
I’m more than a nurse; I’m a parent to these kids, a disciplinarian, an example, a counsellor, a mentor and often a dry shoulder to cry on. It sometimes means playing along with them and their antics, their dramas, and it also means knowing when and how to set limits – you have to know when to say ‘enough is enough’.
One moment I can be reprimanding a kid for bad behaviour, the next I’m consoling a child whose grandfather has just died. Before starting this job I had reasoned that my role would be varied and that I would end up doing things outside my job description. What I was not prepared for was to constantly be playing detective.
In a hospital setting, you tend to believe what the patient tells you. This makes sense as most people don’t like waiting hours to be seen for no reason. But everything’s different in a school, where students are looking for excuses to get out of class or homework.
To avoid being taken advantage of, I began to develop some unique (patent pending) assessment techniques.
‘Sir, I’ve got a sore throat’ was one of the most common complaints. After a quick peek at their throat I could usually tell if they were exaggerating, or outright lying. If it looked OK and they had no fever, I would send them to class with some lozenges and paracetamol. This was never the desired result, and within my second week on the job, the children had become resilient to my tactics.
‘I vomited during the night, and my throat is sore,’ said Marie, the very same Marie who had burst into tears only a week earlier with a blocked nose. Marie had not kept her promise about staying away, she had already become a regular.
Every year there are a dozen or so regulars who stop by two or three times a week, and the reasons vary. They may be homesick, or it may be their first time being unwell without their mother around. Often this changes once they make friends or figure out where they fit in. Sometimes all they need is a wave, a smile, a nod of the head that says ‘I’m here for you’ and ‘you belong’.
The problem with Marie was that she looked in fantastic health. Sure, she could have been up all night vomiting, and one symptom of a bad sore throat (strep throat) is actually an upset stomach so her history does need to be taken seriously as there are potential complications. However, while this is plausible, generally if the throat looks fine, and they have no fever, then I’m stuck with a healthy looking student, with a normal looking throat, who simply claims they’ve been up most of the night vomiting.
‘Your throat is probably sore because of so much vomiting,’ I tentatively suggested, ‘and your throat actually looks fine, you’re not pale, and your tummy doesn’t seem to be making too much noise …’ My voice trailed off as Marie looked ready to shed some tears, but I completed the ritual: 750mg paracetamol (based on her weight), throat lozenges, honey and camomile tea, and a late pass to class.
‘Can’t I rest, for just one class?’ she asked, but her heart was no longer in it. She had won a partial victory with a late pass, my kindness and a detailed explanation of what my examination had found – nothing – and she relented and left, although I did offer her a vomit bowl on the way out, telling her to ‘come back if you fill it up’.
When they don’t get the reaction they want, occasionally a student’s mouth drops open, they pull out their iPhones and dial their parents. Others just head to class. Fortunately, this relationship had moved on from that first teary-eyed encounter, and Marie and I had come to an unacknowledged yet mutual understanding, where she got the full works – medicines, honeyed tea and a late pass – and did not cry or insist on resting in bed. She took the bowl with a sheepish smile. She was ‘well enough’ to appreciate my wry stab at humour.
I’m usually vindicated by lunch break when I see the kids who were supposedly up all night vomiting disregarding my advice about avoiding fried/heavy food, eating fries and hamburgers at lunchtime with no obvious ill effects.
Of course, I did get it wrong sometimes, and continue to do so even now from time to time, but I was adapting. I’d sussed the kids out – who were the ones to keep an eye on – and in turn they were beginning to work me out too.
‘You will let her rest now,’ demanded Mr Kowski. My finger itched closer to the ‘end call’ button, but I controlled my temper and my ego. Mr Kowski is far from the first, and will definitely not be the last person to have a go at me. The skill is in keeping your voice steady and calm.
Mr Kowski was calling from Moscow and was Irina’s agent.
Irina had just turned fifteen, but was already a regular in the first couple of months of school; at least two to three times a week. As far I could tell she had received great care – the camomile tea, late pass to class, the full check-up of subjective symptoms.
She’d come to the health centre this morning at two minutes to eight, right before the bell for morning class.
Irina claimed she was up all night vomiting, and had not slept, and was having to constantly run to the toilet. But I didn’t believe her.
Why didn’t I believe her?
Everything was normal. Her stomach was quiet, her temperature fine, her pulse and blood pressure normal, her lips and tongue moist, with none of that furry ugliness you normally get when your stomach contents are forced up and out. But people can have normal observations and still be sick. What they don’t do is look so great.
Irina’s eyes weren’t tired, they were lively, and she smelled good, of quality perfume, not the stench of recycled acid and dehydration. She’d also waited until the last minute to see me as well. When you’re that sick, you can’t wait to get someone to help. I find the genuinely sick waiting for me to open the door at seven in the morning still in their pyjamas.
After an examination I had tried to send her to her lessons, with no success. Instead of tears, she chose a more formidable weapon. She pulled out her iPhone.
Irina’s parents were furious, and like many of our students from non-English speaking countries, they had someone else speak on their behalf. Saudi and South American
