Further training: Class instead of mass
I keep meeting people who have accumulated such an incredible number of basic and advanced training courses that I turn pale. "I don't have a car, I don't buy clothes or jewelry, I invest everything in my further training," a listener recently told me on the edge of my lecture. And yet he was unemployed and couldn't find a job.
The amount of further training alone does not seem to be enough. Possibly an investment in appearance and impact, in social competence or psychological know-how would have been more appropriate instead of the accumulation of more and more expert knowledge.
Change yes - but please the right!
More and more knowledge in less and less time - From the G9 to the G8 and back again. Clearly you have to try a lot - and if you fail, turn the wheel back or change the direction again.
How much Ritalin still has to be told how many teachers still suffer a burn out or something like this until you realize that although change is necessary, the wrong way has been taken.
The right balance is important
Inhaling and exhaling must alternate in the long term in a balanced rhythm, even if this rhythm can be temporarily overridden. Final sprint. When running as well as before an exam. After that it takes times again when it runs “normally”.
What have you missed so far? What have you always wanted to make up for? Then nothing like ran, then it is synonymous again good. Do not go for the next qualification. The demands on your profession have changed dramatically?
People also need a composting phase
Catch up, make an update - and then it's break again. Just as a garden needs rest and regeneration in winter, people also need a “compost phase”. Digest, convert, so that everything can be fruitful.
Does that sound too much like agriculture to you? Then call it the “composing phase”: calmly incorporate individual tones and mosaic stones into the overall orchestration, listen to them and find out whether they are in order and where they need to be adjusted.
The luxury of inaccessibility
No motor runs continuously without increased wear, even the parliament pays for a summer break. Whereas it was formerly a luxury and success criterion to be attainable, today the opposite is true: one must be able to afford (and want!) Not to be attainable. An interesting training field. How long do you think of doing nothing, thinking nothing, keeping silent, without watch, no mails? Check yourself:
What are your expectations and expectations?
How do you deal with such expectations?
What is actually the price for it if you withdraw from them?
What do you expect from yourself?
Over-fulfilled demands from the outside
The external demands put us under pressure especially when we ourselves expect to fulfill them or even to over-fulfill them. So ask yourself:
Can I lower my own expectations and goals, focus on myself?
Do I have to be constantly accessible by mobile phone, for example?
True compulsive situations are rare
Ursula von der Leyen, the Minister of Labor, also wants to limit her constant accessibility. Enjoy your time out.
You can not do that? But! Real real-world situations are much rarer than we think. And forced changes are often quite unhappy and much faster than we can imagine and want.
Changes are often unhappy
This is the serious accident that requires rethinking, the death of a child, there is the divorce that eludes the emotional and material foundation, there is the sudden loss of the workplace, the collapse: from now on equal is nothing more as it was ,
Many people manage to change and change many things in life. Is it always necessary to have such incisive experiences that force us to rethink, revaluate and radically change?
Negative thinking affects success: I'm stupid and the world is going under?
// By Jens Korz
Dealing with our own mindset should not be missing if you are seriously concerned with improving your self-efficacy. Because all too often we are most in the way of our own success.
The fear of the future
Excessive pessimism according to the motto "Help, the world is going under" or simply seeing black or catastrophizing is another hurdle that stands in the way of our personal success - and which can also be followed in Germany in the current refugee debate.
The thought that what we're going to do will end up in a disaster is a mind-killer where we basically assume that the future holds something unpleasant. This creates a kind of fear of tomorrow. It contradicts any rational reality, but some of us like to make the famous mosquito an elephant.
From the mosquito to the elephant
In us, a sense of life of existential insecurity arises, and thus every event in our life is experienced as the harbinger of a terrible destruction scenario.
Some also say that it is a typical German thought to perceive the world always badly and filled by catastrophes. But in any case, as a result of the development of one 's own personality, such a mistake of thinking is like a bankruptcy.
Bankruptcy of the personality
Reorientations are virtually impossible, because we are in a kind of sacrifice, which is best described with an omnipotent impotence. We are in the sacrificial land and can not do anything about it since every attempt to get out of this condition will end up in a catastrophe.
I experience this thinking with my clients over and over again. People come to me because they are dissatisfied, but do not want to change their own situation because they believe that the new situation would be an even bigger disaster. This way of thinking creates a kind of endless loop from which a person can rarely free himself alone.
Resignation instead of change
There are enough examples in our everyday lives for catastrophic thinking. Take a look around or have a look at yourself.
How many people cling to relationships that make them unhappy?
How many keep their jobs, although they are no longer comfortable there, just because they are afraid the change could be even worse than the situation
