I start by feeding that special horse with good food. To the rest of the horses I make them starve or feed them with less food. Also, I talk positive things with that special horse by using encouraging, motivating words and with remaining I talk negative and depressing words. The result is what I get winning on the special horse that I feed with good food and positive talks.”
The other friend looked at his friend and asked, “So what did you learn from this?” First friend said, “It means we too can win in our lives, when we feed ourselves as well as our mind with good, positive thoughts and positive words. For that first I need to become good friends with the girl I really like and then invest decent time to get to know her and then decide to be in a relationship with that girl. Think positive about our relationship. Only by feeding my mind with positive thoughts, will help me achieve success in a relationship.”
The other friend said, “Very well said and learnt. The point of the story is that if we want a stable relationship or a stable life and a balanced mind, we need to feed our mind with positive thoughts. So that we can experience happiness, joy and peace, plus we will be able to achieve whatever we want in our life. If we feed our mind with negative thoughts, we will end up experiencing negativity such as stress, anxiety, fear, anger and sadness. Which will lead us nowhere but to confusion. Imagine achieving success by becoming that special horse that always wins the race.
One participant raised his hand and said, “It’s easy to say think positive but practically things don’t go as planned or as imagined. Our relatives, family, friends, bosses, colleagues, clients, customers or some outsider are just waiting to bark negative thoughts at us and we like fools keep thinking about it over and over again in turn getting ourselves disturbed, sad and upset. So what’s the solution to this?”
I asked everyone, “Let me all ask you a question? If some unknown guest comes to your house knocks at your door, what do you do? Do you just open the door and let that person in or do you see through the keyhole? Of course you see through the keyhole first. Similarly, first we need to find out that negative thought is knocking at your door, how do we do this? By seeing through our inner keyhole. That’s nothing but our “Awareness”. Second thing is to not let it enter your home that’s your mind, how do we do this? By refusing to think about it and telling it to go away, automatically it will go away when you start focusing on the special horse that always wins the race.
I myself have experienced being in trap, feeling sometimes positive and most of the time negative, having mood swings, didn’t really understand what to do. When I asked my friends to help me. One said, “Make it a point that you do not listen to negative talks at all, this will help you stay positive and happy always”. The other friend said, “Think positive in every negative situation you experience”. My best friends taught me how to keep thinking about the special horse that always wins the race.
Finally, this story of the special horse that always wins the race also closely relates to the Bhagavad Gita, where Arjuna is overcome by negative thoughts of grief and pity of having to kill his own blood relatives on the battlefield of Kurukshetra and Lord Krishna helps him to think positive and guides him on how to become that special horse that always wins the race. This teaches us a very important life lesson.
**Lesson No: 3 Think Positive. Feed your mind with positive thoughts always and this will help you focus on achieving success in life.
Silently a hand went up, it was Shikha. “Yes Shikha, any question?” She said, “How can we think positive if the person whom we love cheats on us?” Another participant said, “Madam Arjuna’s feeling of compassion towards his relatives and not being in favor of fighting this war was positive. How is it negative?”
I said, “Is committing suicide, positive thing or negative thing?” Everyone said, “Negative thing”. “Let me share another story with all of you.
One day on a mountaintop, a man was standing right at the edge. He looked sad and depressed. Oh no! He was there to commit suicide. At that very moment Lord Krishna and Arjuna were passing by and they observed and felt that the man was up to something. So they disguised themselves as normal men and went to help him.
Arjuna asked, “What are you trying to do?”
The man said, “I am fed up of my life and want to commit suicide.”
Arjuna asked, “But why? Kindly share your problems with us may be we can help.”
So the man said, “My wife has cheated on me. I cannot accept this fact and cannot see her with someone else. I love her very much so want to release her as well as myself from this stress.”
Arjuna said, “Committing suicide is not the right thing to do or even to think about. For every problem there is a solution. We must never loose hope and never give up. Have you ever thought what will happen to your family after you commit suicide.”
“No human being on this earth is free from problems. We must learn to face our problems and not run away from it. Just think what if you commit suicide now and again in next life you are faced with the same or even worse problems, then what will you do? Commit suicide again. Just think about it.”
Lord Krishna who was silently listening to this conversation said, “Let me help you by sharing the solutions to your problems.”
Lord Krishna looked at the man and said, “My friend are you 100% sure that your wife has cheated on you. Have you spoken with her on this matter. Has she admitted that she has cheated on you?”
“If your answer is no, then do not worry. Go home and talk with your wife openly on this matter.”
“But, if your answer is yes and your wife is guilty of her deed and she wants you to forgive her. My friend, please go ahead forgive her and forget about what happened and move on in your life. I know it will be difficult in the beginning but try to look at the positive side of the person, think of all the good she has done for you and ignore the negatives.”
“Look at it this way. Couples who get divorced on various reasons, don’t they get remarried and accept their new spouse irrespective of their past relationships?
The man asked what if I forgive her now but later she again cheats on me. Lord Krishna smiled and said, “My friend, our body be it a man or a woman is made up of senses which is not in our control. It is controlled by nature. If she cheats on you, talk to her with an open mind. Give her your help, support, love, patience, time and find solution to this problem. Over a period of time, she will realize your love and everything will be fine in your life. If you continue to face issues and you are unable to handle this emotional stress, then my friend your heart will guide you in the right direction. There are two choices in front of you, either you accept her and forgive whatever happened or leave her and move on in your life. Just listen to what your heart says, take the right step and your problems will get sorted out.”
The man was surprised to hear such a point of view and didn’t know how to thank Lord Krishna for this. The man said, “I am very grateful to You for showing me the right direction. My stress has gone. Thank you for guiding me.”
That man then went back to his home with a big smile.
Arjuna asked Lord Krishna, “Had we not seen him at the right time, he would have surely committed suicide. But who will help people like him when we are not there?”
Lord Krishna said, “People don’t realize that their family and friends are actual messengers
