Launching Financial Grownups. Bobbi Rebell
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Getting back to the larger trends, in recent years student debt has exploded. That creates a huge roadblock for even the best prepared and most well-positioned new graduates to be financially independent of their parents. Students get a rude awakening when the first bill comes, and for many, cutting housing expenses by moving back home is actually the most financially astute decision for all the financial stakeholders. Remember, parents also take out loans to pay for their kids' education.
Home prices have skyrocketed, putting affordability out of reach for many young people. Wages have not kept up. And attitudes toward renting have changed. As a journalist I know data can be presented in many different ways, but there is compelling evidence that renting over buying is not always a bad financial decision, especially if your child wants flexibility with ever-changing economy and tax laws. At the very least, the idea of putting all your resources and stretching to buy a home has been put into question.
Liz Weston, CFP®, is the author of six books about money as well as a finance columnist at Nerdwallet. She is also the mother of an 18-year-old daughter. Weston is concerned about young adults getting into homes they won't be able to afford and remembers the 2008 housing bubble burst and the mortgage mess that followed:
It used to be the advice to stretch to buy a house because there was inflation, and inflation would inevitably raise your wages and you could afford it down the road. Well, there hasn't been wage inflation for a very long time, at least not for the majority of Americans.
The Xbox Doesn't Take Cash
Paper currency has been dethroned as the dominant everyday way we pay for things. Sure, we still use cash, but if we are being honest, for many of us, credit and debit cards, Zelle, Venmo, Apple Pay, and endless other digital payment options are our go-to means of buying and paying for stuff. The pandemic, with its emphasis on not touching anything, further amplified the cashless trend.
The rise of digital currency has made many of our lives easier. As grownups, we can track our spending more easily because the receipts can be digital, relieving us of having to keep track of those pesky paper ones. Many of us no longer sit down and manually balance our checkbooks. Digital apps break down exactly where our money is going and leave little room for us to “hide” purchases.
But there are also consequences for us and for our children. Money just flows so much more easily when it is digital. Our kids grow up seeing us swiping credit cards or even just holding our phones up to receivers to pay for groceries when we take them with us to the store – if we even go to the store now that so much of our buying is online and completely invisible to them. Things just appear in boxes at our homes. Our kids don't see any finite amount of money we have to spend. We must deliberately and very proactively show our kids the cost of things and go out of our way to discuss budgets and spending limits.
I know what you are thinking: we can still take an envelope, fill it with cash, and then walk them through a grocery trip. I think that's a great idea. Maybe I should have done it. I haven't. I'm guessing many of you have not either. My kids see that when we go to the machine, money comes out if we need cash, so they don't have as strong a sense of the fact that it is limited, no matter how many times we tell them. They often aren't interested because they are looking at their phones anyway. Money comes through Venmo or Zelle in their world. How did this happen? Why don't they feel motivated to learn more about money? Why don't they care more?
When my youngest son was little, I labeled three jars Give, Save, and Spend, as recommended by parenting expert and New York Times columnist Ron Lieber, author of The Opposite of Spoiled, who we will hear from later. When my son's savings jar filled up, we took the coins to the bank to deposit. We had to put all the coins into rolls. It took us hours. He said he found the exercise of doing the rolling “soothing” and a nice mental break. We discussed how interesting it was that you needed so many pennies to have the same buying power as a quarter and how much more work it was to roll all those pennies.
I made sure he was the one to give it to the bank teller. I made sure he showed me the total. I took photos. With his permission, I shared it on social media. We talked about what he could buy with the money if he wanted. But I'm still not sure he “got it” because it wasn't something that hit home. He didn't need cash to buy anything he wanted; it was all online, and the Xbox doesn't take pennies.
The lessons our kids first learn about money are priceless and effective for their purpose. As they go through their teen years and move into their twenties, we have to adapt and find new ways to make money lessons relevant to them as their world changes. For me, this has meant getting my now teenage son a debit card, where I can create incentives for him to earn his allowance, monitor how and where he spends his money, and teach him about saving and investing on an app. We may not like that our kids live their lives in front of little screens, but we'll get further if we meet them where they are.
Parenting expert KJ Dell'Antonia, author of How to Be a Happier Parent and former editor of the New York Times parenting column “The Motherload,” uses the same debit card and app that I use, Greenlight, with her kids. “It's working really well because the kids – they do get, they do keep track of what they spend.” The app allows parents to approve how and where their kids can spend money, sends a notification when a transaction takes place, and creates a digital system for spending, saving, giving, and even investing – echoing Lieber's recommendation, with the added bonus of it being on their phone, where their eyes are. Dell'Antonia says it is also more relevant to future financial grownups because it facilitates spending where spending happens: the internet. “They can use it on the internet to buy things. That was what was really hard for me for a while, figuring out how to give them responsibility because you can't get them a credit card.”
Incentives Matter
Parenting expert Allison Task's stepdaughter had agreed to pay for half of her new phone. At first, there was no timeline and no consequence if she did not pay, so she simply kept putting it off and making promises that she would get to it. Then Task had an idea and wrote her a note that read, “I've made a mistake. Starting January 1, we will be charging you interest, and we'll be happy to explain how that works, but we've made a mistake.” What happened next? “Oh my God,” Task said. “Done in half an hour. She sent us a check for the full amount she owed us because she had recently started working at a local restaurant.”
That little note enforcing what they had already agreed on, with a financial consequence, did so much to teach Task's daughter the importance of paying a loan and avoiding the consequences of nonpayment: interest. That lesson also protected her daughter from paying a higher price in the future, including having bad marks on her credit report and having to pay higher rates for loans on everything from cars to a new home.
It would have been so much easier for Task to just say, “Oh, she's working so hard and earning so little at that restaurant. Let's not bug her to pay off the phone. We aren't hurting so much for the money and she's such a good kid.” And that is the point: If you are like me, you have so many regrets about things you should have stopped doing or could have done better but