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This book is dedicated to my husband, Collin, who believed in my dream and supported me in all my efforts to make it happen; my children, Elanor, William, Violet, Gabriel, Peter, and Laura, who are my most precious gifts from God; and Catholic working mothers everywhere.
Contents
Chapter 2: Our Sisters, the Saints
Chapter 3: Finding Peace When You Don’t Want to Work
Chapter 4: Finding Peace When You Do Want to Work
Chapter 5: Tools for Discernment
Chapter 7: Pregnancy, Maternity Leave, and Returning to Work
Chapter 9: Finding Flexibility
Chapter 10: Difficult Circumstances
Chapter 11: Prayer, Fellowship, and Self-Care
1. Other Tools for Discernment
2. Prayers for Working Mothers
Chapter 1
You Are Not Alone
Most of the books and blogs written for and about Catholic mothers take for granted that the bulk of their time is devoted to their household and children. These publications support and encourage women in their vocations as wives and mothers, but seem to assume that these are women’s only vocations.
However, many Catholic mothers have felt called by God to work outside the home, serving others with their talents. Many Catholic mothers have determined that they must work, even if they’d prefer to stay home, in order to provide for their families.
While all mothers work hard on a daily basis, mothers who earn a wage in addition to the responsibilities of their roles as wives and parents often face a unique set of challenges. With multiple vocations, it’s all they can do to keep up with the bare minimum of housework, cooking, and laundry in addition to working twenty, thirty, forty, or more hours per week (plus the time it might take for commuting and daycare drop-off/pickup).
I am intimately familiar with the joys and challenges of this hectic lifestyle, because I lived it for more than a decade.
My journey as a Catholic working mother began on May 17, 2004. As I watched the pregnancy test turn positive, my heart rejoiced, but my brain said, “How are you going to afford a child?”
That was a question my husband and I returned to again and again over the next several months. I was working full time, and he was working part time while going to college. I was a fairly new college graduate working in an entry-level job, and my income alone would not cover all of our expenses. We determined that, after the baby was born, we could work opposite shifts for the first six months to avoid paying for daycare; after that, we would reassess.
“Even though I would actually love to be at home more but can’t, I love [the Catholic Working Mothers Facebook] group because it is filled with faithful, strong Catholic women who are living their faith out in the real world. This doesn’t make us any less of wonderful mothers than our SAHM friends, and it allows us to be a witness to our coworkers, customers, and others we wouldn’t otherwise interact with were it not for working outside the home.”
— Erin G.
As the child of a working mother, I assumed that returning to work after my six weeks of unpaid leave — which was all we could (barely) afford — would be a matter of course. But after my first child and eldest daughter was born on January 13, 2005, I found that, unexpectedly, my heart longed to stay home with her. I had underestimated how incredibly difficult and heart-wrenching it would be to leave her in another’s care—even my husband’s — while I went to work.
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