do you believe you deserve in your life and in your relationships?
2.Do you trust yourself to take care of your needs? How would you do that?
3.What do you need to let go of in your life? How do you think you will feel once you let it go?
4.When was the last time you didn’t get something you wanted in a relationship, but it worked out for the best?
5.What would your ideal relationships look like to you, if nothing stood in the way?
6.What does “love” mean to you? How do you show love to yourself and others?
7.What would your daily life look like in your ideal relationships?
8.Have you ever valued someone else’s opinion over your own? Why? How would that situation have been different if you put yourself first?
9.What do you bring to relationships? Are you happy with what you bring to the table?
10.What does “forgiveness” mean to you? What do you need to forgive yourself for? How can you love yourself as you go through the process of forgiving?
11.Do you need to forgive others? How would your life be different if you forgave those people who hurt you?
12.What do you think about yourself when you look in the mirror?
13.What do you love about your life right now? Why do you love it?
14.What do you love about your relationships right now? Why do you love them?
15.Is putting yourself first a negative thing or a positive thing? What if you believed that being focused on your feelings could be beneficial to your well-being? How would your life change?
Take some time with this exercise. Really think about each question, and look over what you wrote down. This is a great way to see where you are at and where you stand in your relationships. It’s a clarity exercise. Sometimes we think we know what we want and don’t want, but it isn’t until we see it written down that we realize where we are emotionally.
After you get very clear on what you will no longer accept in your relationships, and can see where you are emotionally, write a love letter. The love letter can go into your Love Box. Later on, I’ll explain more about the Love Box and how you can create one to help enhance your present relationships or to manifest new ones. The love letter you write could be to a partner–whether you are in an existing relationship or wish to start a new one. If you want to focus on a more harmonious relationship, it could be to a family member. You could write to a friend or coworker with whom your relationship is struggling, and you want to heal the rift between you. It works for anyone you choose.
Keep the love letter in the box until you manifest that relationship. Then, take the letter from your box, thank it for helping bring in your manifestation, and release it and let it go. It is done. You could do a letting-go ritual. For example, you could burn the letter, or you might save it, and tuck it away in your journal. This is totally up to you; it’s a personal choice. There is no wrong way to do this. I like to do this exercise on a new or full moon. I believe I am working with the power of the moon to help enhance my manifestation. The reason I say there is no wrong way to do this, is because the Universe is responding to you and your energy. If your energy is strong, and you clear these blocks to receiving, and you believe that you deserve to have what you are asking for, then, have faith. It is on its way to you!
The love letter for your Love Box is one way to help attract a relationship. But I always tell people to create a separate postcard specially, with unique images to help manifest a new relationship or to shift the energy in an existing one. The love letter is more specific in that you are writing to a loved one and specifying attributes you want to share with a specific person. The postcard is more general, a visual snapshot to show the Universe what you want. It allows the Universe to do its job as it intends without your specifications getting in the way. Many times the Universe has more in store for us then we could ever realize.
When you make a postcard, you are placing your energy into it. When you sit down and get into your creative space, all sorts of magic begins to happen. Imagine you are a casting a spell, and you place all your ingredients into a potion so that it has all it needs to do your bidding. That is what creating a manifesting postcard is like. The more you put into it, the more you infuse it with your own unique magic. When you send it out and release it, you affirm your declaration, and so it is! Now, get out of the way, allow the Universe to bring it to you, and know that it is coming. The how, why, when, and what it looks like are none of your business. I know that sounds counterintuitive, but trust me. The Universe knows way better than you what you need. The Universe loves you and it wants you to be happy, so trust that what you need is on its way!
Love and Relationships—Tips and Techniques
The Love Box
Here is what you need to create a Love Box to help you manifest the kind of relationship you want to bring into your life. It can be a romance Love Box, a sibling Love Box, a parent Love Box, child, friendship—whatever it is you desire. The only difference is what you put in it, and where you place your box.
Find a box—it might be an old jewelry box, an antique box, a cigar box, anything you can close that resonates with you. I happen to love wood cigar boxes. I am not sure why, but I have always just loved the way they feel, look, and smell, even though I don’t smoke cigars. So, when I create a Love Box, I use old wood cigar boxes. Here is what you will need.
► Your special box—whatever speaks to you.
► A love letter written as if your desired relationship already exists in the physical, present moment. If it’s romantic, write it to your partner. If it’s for a family member, write as if you already have the relationship you desire. For example, To my partner, I love you because… or I love that we… Imagine that you are already living your ideal relationship. What would you say to your partner, or mother, family member, or friend? Remember to express gratitude for what you have already created in your imagination. In your love letter, write it as if it’s already manifested. Mom, I am so grateful that you and I are… It is very important that you write as if it is already in the here and now!
► Take the time to find a piece of beautiful paper, your favorite pen, and handwrite your love letter. Don’t just write it on yellow legal pad. Show the Universe that you are serious in your intent, and want to create something special and magical. This is a powerful manifesting tool. When you take the time to handwrite your desire, you are infusing that paper with your energy, and the Universe only responds to the energy you put forth. After you write your letter, roll it up and tie it with a piece of beautiful twine or your favorite color ribbon.
► Include a small mirror in your box. Mirrors are for magnetizing, and putting a mirror face up under whatever else you include in your box, helps magnetize your desire. If you want to get rid of something, let go of, distance yourself, or repel something away from you—put the mirror face down. This is an important distinction.
► Find an image that matches what you want to manifest. If it’s a romantic relationship, print out photos that correspond with what you envision for the relationship. The same goes for other kinds of relationships. It could be picture of a lovely couple kissing or at their wedding if that is what you want. It could be a picture of sisters lovingly holding hands, if you are manifesting an intimate sibling relationship. Be specific. If you want to bring a romantic relationship to your life, find a photo of a person that fits that physical description and include that. The Universe will know your taste or style from the images you select.
