Co-Cultures and Communication Strategies
Have you ever identified as an outsider? People who believe they belong to a marginalized group—that is, a group whose members feel like outsiders—have a number of options to choose from regarding how they want to interact with members of the dominant culture or even if they want to interact with them at all. Have you, or has anyone you know, used any of the strategies that follow?
Assimilation.
Co-culture members who use the strategy of assimilation attempt to fit in or join with members of the dominant culture. They converse about subjects that members of the dominant talk about, such as cars or sports, or they dress as members of the dominant culture dress. They give up their own ways in an effort to assume the modes of behavior of the dominant culture.
Accommodation.
In comparison, co-culture members who use the strategy of accommodation attempt to maintain their cultural identity even while they strive to establish relationships with members of the dominant culture. A gay man or lesbian who takes his or her partner to an occasion at which members of the dominant culture will be present, such as a company or family celebration, is using the strategy of accommodation.
Separation.
On the other hand, when members of a co-culture resist interacting with members of the dominant culture, they employ the strategy of resistance, or separation. Because these people, such as Hasidic Jews, prefer to interact with each other rather than have contact with people they perceive to be outsiders, they tend to keep to themselves.
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Co-Cultures and Communication Approaches
Members of co-cultures can use passive, assertive, aggressive, or confrontational communication approaches in their efforts to accomplish their objectives relative to the dominant culture.
Passive Communication.
Co-culture members who use a passive communication approach seek to avoid the limelight. They accept their position in the cultural hierarchy. Rather than defend their ways and oppose others, they embrace the cultural beliefs and practices of the dominant culture. Recent immigrants to the United States who desire to attain citizenship may choose this path, hoping to blend in so that they do not disturb the status quo.
Assertive Communication.
Co-culture members who use an assertive communication approach may seek to communicate a shared cultural identity with members of the dominant group. They want others to accommodate their diversity. They are receptive to rethinking a number of their ideas and may give up or modify some while holding on to others. After the September 11, 2001, terrorist attacks, for example, many Arab Americans spoke openly of their patriotism, their support for the war against terror, and their desire for others to allow them to live according to their values and beliefs.
More Aggressive Communication.
Co-culture members who use a more aggressive communication approach defend their own beliefs and traditions with intensity and may be perceived by members of the dominant culture as “hurtfully expressive” or “self-promoting.” They make it difficult for members of the dominant culture to ignore their presence or pretend they do not exist.33 They adopt this strategy to demarginalize themselves and actively participate in the world known to members of the dominant culture. In the early years of Act Up, a gay rights organization, members employed this approach (Table 2.1).
Table 2.1
Skill Builder
Assessing Ethnocentrism Versus Cultural Relativism
Evaluate your culturally ethnocentric or relativistic tendencies. Label the following statements as true or false, providing an example of a behavior you used when either interacting with or avoiding interacting with a member of another culture.
1 I go out of my way to be with people who are like me.
2 I can cooperate with people like me, but I find it difficult to cooperate with people unlike me.
3 I trust those who are like me more freely than I trust those who are different from me.
4 I am less fearful when I am around people like me than when I am around people unlike me.
5 I am much more apt to blame people unlike me for causing trouble than I am to blame people like me.
6 I believe that people unlike me should make an effort to become more like me.
What do your answers and examples reveal? Are there some cultures different from your own that you are more comfortable with than others? What steps are you willing to take, if any, to minimize the potentially negative effects of ethnocentrism?
Understanding both the general culture and its co-cultures is essential for effective communication. Merely knowing another’s language is not enough. It also is necessary to become aware of the norms and rules of the culture or co-cultures that might influence the nature of interactions you have with its members. It is important to understand the ways culture shapes interaction.
Exploring Diversity
Understanding Other Cultures
Make a list of individuals whose cultural backgrounds differ from your own and with whom you have communicated recently. How many of the following questions can you answer about each person on your list?
1 How do the individual’s feelings about socialization differ from your own?
2 How does the individual’s concept of self compare with yours?
3 To what extent do the individual’s values and attitudes differ from yours?
4 Which of your behaviors has the individual had difficulty understanding or accepting? Which of his or her behaviors have you have difficulty with?
5 Which of the individuals you interacted with did you find to be most like you? Most unlike you? Can you identify your points of similarity and difference?
6 To what extent was the individual more cooperative or competitive than you?
7 In what ways did the individual’s use of verbal language differ from your own?
8 In what ways did the individual’s nonverbal behavior differ from your own?
9 How did the individual’s treatment of time and space differ from your own?
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