treasures beyond traditional measures
Wherever I go wherever I rest I always know
Their value – I can feel them – my friends
There are friends that you talk to infrequently. However, when you do speak, it seems like it was only yesterday that you last spoke to each other. The warmth and comfort comes flowing back and you start up wherever you left off.
Then there are the friends yet to be made - the future friends. The future holds many possibilities among which are new friendships. People, who share an interest or vocation, will come into your life. Some of these people will become favored companions – friends.
Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.
Anais Nin
You cultivate friendships by being a friend. Sound simple doesn’t it? That means that friendship is a two way street. Your end of the friendship is important. You must be supportive, warm and comforting. You have to listen and be patient. Sometimes you have to be constructively critical to help a friend. We have to encourage our friends to be their best selves. Being a friend means working through rumors or misunderstandings. This will mean giving a friend the benefit of the doubt until you talk to them.
Do friendships last a lifetime? Is there a time to quietly end a friendship? The type of friendship I have described to this point can last a lifetime. There may come a time to walk away from a friendship if your friend is one who:
Always makes jokes at your expense
Gets jealous when you are doing well
Only call you as a last resort for activities
Always seems negative or is complaining about something
Tells you about plans they have made and leaves you out
Only talks but never listens
Wants to be your only friend and you’re their only friend
Doesn’t sound much like friendship does it? You must be on guard to not fall into those behaviors yourself. So what do you do if your friendship is not longer healthy? Talk to your friend. Explain what bothers you and see if your friend understands. People sometimes unknowingly act a certain way. They may not recognize a problem because we have accepted the behavior for so long it seems natural. Speak your piece then use some active listening. You may be able to salvage a friendship. Otherwise it may be time to “breakup” with that friend.
Friends in your life are like pillars on your porch. Sometimes they hold you up and sometimes they lean on you. Sometimes it’s just enough to know they’re standing by.
Anonymous
Here is an item to add to your to do list if you have one. If you do not have a list then you can start one with this.
1)Make a list of all your friends.
2)Call them.
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