the worst-case scenario is not as bad as you think. In fact, the benefits of change are worth the risk. Your inner talk begins to change at this point.
6. Believe You Will Succeed.
To believe you’d succeed is to be halfway there. When we set up a goal, it’s because we want to change something. We don’t just do something for no reason; it’s because we want to get somewhere. It takes a key understanding to achieve success, and that is the ability to believe that you can. It may sound like an obvious statement, but it’s shocking to find people who aren’t able to reach their targets because of a lack of convincing belief in self. If you truly understand that success is attainable, it will become so. Success is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Many quit because they feel they’d never be able to achieve what they want.
Success means personal prosperity: a fine home, vacations, travel, new things, financial security, giving your children maximum advantages. Success means winning admiration, leadership, being looked up to by people in your business and social life. Success means freedom: freedom from worries, fears, frustrations, and failure. Success means self-respect, continually finding more real happiness and satisfaction from life, being able to do more for those who depend on you. Success means winning and it is the goal of life!
A lot of people give up because they feel inadequate and perceive themselves as lacking in comparison to others. It takes a realization to know that you can and it takes a mindset makeover to achieve whatever you set your heart on to achieve. The way we see ourselves and how we think of ourselves can create a huge impact on what we do. And when you are on the path to success, some people will tear you down. But if we strongly believe in our success, then all those discouraging words will not affect us.
Believe that you will succeed, and you will.
— Dale Carnegie
Success means many wonderful, positive things. Success means personal prosperity: a fine home, vacations, travel, new things, financial security, giving your children maximum advantages, etc. Success means winning admiration, leadership, being looked up to by people in your business and social life. Success means freedom: freedom from worries, fears, frustrations, and failure. Success means self-respect, continually finding more real happiness and satisfaction from life, being able to do more for those who depend on you. Success means winning! Success-achievement is the goal of life! Every human being wants success. Everybody wants the best this life can deliver. Nobody enjoys crawling, living in mediocrity. No one likes feeling second-class and feeling forced to go that way. Some of the most practical success-building wisdom is found in the Biblical quotation stating that faith can move mountains. Believe, really believe, that you can move mountains and you can! Not many people believe that they can move mountains. So, as a result, not many people do. On some occasion you’ve probably heard someone say something like, “It’s nonsense to think you can make a mountain move away.” Life is competitive, but not necessarily a competition. There are many people looking to go toe-to-toe with you in battle. From getting into university, to establishing your own company, to asking out that boy crush or girl crush, nothing good comes easy! Contrariwise, a lot of bad comes easily, and that’s largely since you allow others to exploit your weaknesses and insecurities. Don’t let that happen. The world is big enough – a watered garden for all of us tender flowers to flourish! The market is large enough to make anybody comfortably wealthy.
Nothing stops anyone from succeeding. The strongest mindset is the mindset that we will succeed if only we make the effort. There’s only one belief I have whenever I start anything, and that’s the belief that I will succeed. You need to develop self-confidence because everything starts with your core beliefs. Once you develop a trust in yourself, everything you do will start falling into place. Success doesn’t come easy; that’s a known fact. It is about hard work and dedication. But it also requires strong determination. With that determination is the belief in succeeding. Successful entrepreneurs knew from day one that they would succeed, no matter how tough and rough things go. They believed in their success even before they made it happen, and that belief helped them through it.
7. Analyze What Went Wrong.
No man becomes noble, good, and great until he lays down the law that he is so. — Frank Crane
In his book called The Brain That Changes Itself: Stories of Personal Triumph from the Frontiers of Brain Science, Norman Doidge said that analysis helps patients put their unconscious procedural memories and actions into words and into context so they can better understand them. Salman Rushdie said that “the only people who see the whole picture are the ones who step outside the frame,” in his book, The Ground Beneath Her Feet. The importance of analysis cannot be overemphasized; in business, if you want to boost your project profits, you must analyze past failures, and with the help of that knowledge you will craft winning estimates. This applies to our individual lives as well.
A great deal of value can be gained by analyzing past project failures to understand what went wrong, and designing safeguards, processes, and approvals to minimize the chances they happen again. Thinking positively doesn’t mean denying that there is anything wrong. Instead, give yourself some time to think about the things that led up to your current situation, so you can avoid future mistakes and look toward a more positive tomorrow.
People are more comfortable attending to evidence that enables them to believe what they want to believe in a way that fosters denying responsibility for failures and attributing the problem to others or to "the system." We would prefer to move on to something more pleasant. Rigorous analysis of failure requires that people, at least temporarily, put aside these tendencies to explore unpleasant truths and take personal responsibility.
8. Give Yourself Credit.
The genius of a composer is found in the notes of his music; but analyzing the notes will not reveal his genius. The poet's greatness is contained in his words; yet the study of his words will not disclose his inspiration. God reveals himself in creation; but scrutinize creation as minutely as you wish, you will not find God, any more than you will find the soul through careful examination of your body. — Anthony De Mello
In case no one has told you today, you’re awesome. It is not uncommon for people to focus on what they have not done, instead of what they have achieved. Many of us drown in the pool of our skewed perception, so much so that we are blinded to our accomplishments and unable to ruminate on our own shortcomings. We concentrate our thoughts and ruminations on the long journey ahead instead of taking cognizance of how far we’ve come in our efforts. This flaw-digging mindset forms the building slabs of our imminent endeavors—if, that is, we eschew seeing the bad in every good and we learn to trust in ourselves and take some credit. Do you know the days where, at the end of that day, you say to yourself that you have achieved nothing, although you’ve worked hard all day? How do you feel when you keep saying this to yourself? Are you motivated to keep going? You probably feel unproductive and make yourself feel down, not having the drive to move on. Why do you have an unproductive feeling even though you’ve worked all day? We’re taught that modesty is a noble trait and is something we need to nurture in ourselves, and that vanity, egotism, arrogance, and self-importance are undesirable. We polarize these sets of behavior, thinking of modesty as good and all that other stuff as bad. In the pursuit of modesty, you can easily segue into hiding your light under a bushel, a behavior that sees you hiding your gifts, strengths, and talents from the world in case other people think you’re full of yourself, vain, ego-driven, self-important, or arrogant. In other words, you keep yourself hidden in case people think you’re “bad.” Then, who’d have given it thought, when you make something happen that was a result of what you hid under that bushel, you don’t want to give yourself credit for it because doing so might mean you’re “bad.”
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