earlier will come into your life. And who comes depends on you…
It will be better for me to write what may await you during your pregnancy and after childbirth at the start of the book rather than at the end.
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Before conceiving from a man, it’s important for a woman to understand what awaits her further down the line. Because for a man, however good a person he may seem at first glance, the birth of a baby is a serious test. It’s a test for both partners of course. But a woman is better adapted from the start; she is programmed by nature. She carries the baby 9 months under her heart and then breast feeds it. While she is pregnant she gets used to being with the baby 24 hours a day and feeling it inside her. The baby acts through her constantly. Its hunger is her hunger, its needs are her needs. And finally, when the baby comes into the world she is morally ready to interact with it.
Now and then a man sees his woman’s growing belly, and even when the baby is born, he can’t immediately grasp the meaning of: “Wow! I’ve become a father!” And not only become a father but taken on a new, huge responsibility which requires effort daily, hourly and on a minute-by-minute basis. A woman’s task here is not only to perceive all that is happening, but also to share this with her man. A new life has come to Earth, a life carrying his genes filled with his blood.
Unfortunately many fathers only understand this when their child is 5 – 10 years old. Sometimes realization comes too late. Many marriages collapse in particular after children are born. It’s too difficult… the man wants love, attention, and now there’s this little creature…
Hormones play with a woman’s body and can sorely test both partners’ nerves. During pregnancy a woman can become capricious, feel repulsion towards her partner, and heap a whole load of other surprises on the future father’s shoulders. What’s to be done? She’s pregnant and the only thing that remains for the man to do is to resign himself: “Ok, I’ll bear it for 9 months”. After birth the story doesn’t come to an end. The most interesting period begins… We’ll get to that a bit later on…
Conception
How can I explain conception? How can I find fitting words to describe the miracle that is bestowed on us? The Divine touch, a moment of Truth, Fusion of two different beings, a gift of Love. An almost inexplicable magic that takes place in our lives and changes them forever.
This is the main moment in a child’s life. It is this moment that defines the child’s future; whether she will be energetic, healthy, happy or…
Conception is like a code for a program. After the start button is pushed the program begins to be carried out and we will be mere observers of its realization. The smallest of details play a role here; how, when and with whom conception takes place affects the chain of events which will unfold.
The seed planted in soil, in the mother’s womb, will give birth to a particular type of plant. And the quality of the earth which receives the seed, the quality of the mother’s womb and her state of health influence how the seed will grow.
I often get asked why some people are full of energy from the day they are born, and others are not. Many answers are hidden in the sacred moment of conception. That's why it should be approached and prepared for consciously.
How to prepare for conception
For a long time I was taken up by the question of preparing for conception. I would often ask my mentors about it and also try to find the answers myself.
I can now say that the main secret is Love – sincere feelings from man and woman to each other. When there is love, both want a child. Their hearts are open and knowledge about what to do and how to do it comes by itself, flows through their bodies and fuses to birth new life.
There is no doubt about the fact that a woman needs to prepare for this moment. First and foremost, her body should be clean, healthy, filled with strength. The soil which will receive the seed should be bountiful. It should not be a wasteland made desolate by past ties, sucked dry by the weeds of someone else’s thoughts, energies and intentions.
Virginity is the ideal state for a woman to conceive in.
When a girl becomes a woman by losing her virginity, she receives new life inside herself.
Virginity is an immense gift for a woman. It is her power and much has been written about the topic in Vedic sources and other ancient texts. I will talk about this in detail in the chapter Woman’s gift.
But it is far from common for conception to take place when a man comes into a woman for the first time. And, unfortunately, for many women this does not always happen with their first partner. This is why, before a woman conceives, she must fully say goodbye to the past, let go of everything that should have been let go of a long time ago so that no loose ends are left trailing behind her, and clean her heart, mind and body from all that happened somewhere, sometime with someone…
She must go into conception as pure as is possible for her. Virgin in all senses of the word.
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When the sacred moment of conception takes place, it’s very important to be conscious of it. Both partners need to put their maximum strength into it – their intent for the child to be born robust, healthy and strong. With your two energies interlaced to the rhythm of your heartbeats, a third creature comes to this Earth – a completely new life.
Here both are creators. And if one partner is not ready, persuasion is not the way to make them ready. If your chosen one does not want to or is not ready to become a father then it doesn’t pay to trick him into become pregnant from him. All the negative information will have an effect on the child, one way or another. Children feel distinctly whether they were desired or not. And a child can suffer from this their whole life.
What fundament does such an act lay for the creation of life? Lies?
You don’t really want to hear blame addressed to you during your pregnancy, even if a man later makes peace with the situation and accepts his unplanned sweetheart. But already in a mother’s womb, a baby understands everything and is very sensitive to the energy waves coming from both parents.
A child is the unity of two people, and both should take full part in its creation, aware of what they are doing. If one person doesn’t take part but only their physical material does, what kind of child will be produced?…
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Each of us feel with our sixth sense whether we were desired or not. You can close your eyes and ask yourselves. If you weren’t part of someone’s plans, you will feel the deep pain connected to this inside yourselves. It leaves a mark that affects the rest of your lives. The pain is extremely deep because it’s the very first pain of life that is experienced, but even this can be healed. These people act like children who have not received enough love and hold an overarching grudge towards everyone. They weren’t desired by their parents and feel as if the whole world doesn’t desire them either. They believe that no one will invite them into their game, and that in order to achieve something in this life they need to break through walls and locked doors.
If this is your story, then you have a lot of work to do on yourself. But start at least by accepting that since you’ve already been born, it means that the world called for you and wanted you, and that’s why you’re here. You’ve been sent down from nothing other than the sky itself and that’s why you are unique.
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A baby
