The aim of this book is to explain and offer lots and lots of examples of these seven ways of parenting with play to help you adopt this peaceful and positive approach.
In summary, the 7 Ways to Play are as follows:
The Playful Parent is a guide to managing and enjoying your busy family life with play. It will help you identify, observe and initiate play, and enable you to integrate it into your everyday routine. It will help you feel more confident about encouraging a mix of activities from across the broad spectrum of play to fulfil your family’s particular needs in most situations, from a spare five minutes to the times when something playful can absolutely save the day. It’s a book to dip into again and again for details of practical and fun ideas to help you use play throughout your day, or to simply get some inspiration.
You’ll be fluent in the language of play in no time, and you’ll begin to really enjoy – not endure – those messy, marvellous and magical toddler and preschool years. It doesn’t matter if you feel you have forgotten how to play; babies, toddlers and children instinctively know how to do it. It doesn’t matter either if you think you haven’t a creative bone in your body – children are the most creative people on the planet. And it doesn’t matter if you feel you don’t have the time or the inclination to be the family entertainer – children are naturally great at entertaining themselves. All you have to do is give them opportunities to play along the way, every day – and these can be found in the many tried-and-tested ideas in this book.
Use the 7 Ways to Play to plan your day
Planning play is like planning meals; just as you aim to provide your child with a balanced diet of food, you might aim to offer a balanced diet of play too. So, in the same way that you wouldn’t want their diet to be all bread and cereal, say, their play shouldn’t be all make and take. Some people like to create weekly plans for their meals, others like to take it one day at a time; the same principle can be applied to planning your play. When you’re familiar with all the different ways to play you can begin to pick and mix the ideas to give your child variety; you can plan by selecting the right kind of play at the right time — to suit you, your situation and the needs of your child – and, of course, come up with your own ideas. If you wish, you could then make these into a daily or weekly play planner – just like a meal planner.
The key thing to consider when planning your play is how much time you have. If you really need your little one to be getting on with something by themselves or perhaps to be helping you get on with something, happily and cooperatively, then choose an idea from Chores: not Bores, 10-Second Set-ups or Sanity Savers. If you want to set up an activity that engages them while you merely supervise, choose an Invitation to Play. If you can be around to help them a bit, choose an Invitation to Create; if you have enough time to actually join in, then try a Stay and Play or a Make and Take activity.
Also, when choosing ways to play, think about the mood your little one is in. Are they full of beans? Can you stay and play? If they’re bouncing around when you need to make a phone call, or you’d just like them to play by themselves for a while, choose an active 10-second set-up, like the balloon solution, or an active invitation to play as.
If your child is feeling poorly you could try a gentle stay and play – perhaps reading to them. Then, depending on how they’re feeling, you might set them up with a gentle invitation to create – maybe with some play dough, or with an audio book – or a simple invitation to play – perhaps using small figurines and a little play scene on their duvet.
Whatever your situation – whether you want to mark high days and holidays with some kind of art or craft, have a cosy day at home because you’re feeling unwell, fit play into a hectic morning of shopping and travelling, use it to cool down on a hot day or simply to get them outside for a while – there is a way to play in this book that will suit.
Family Favourites
You might like to make your own collection of playful-time favourites by trying out a few of the ways to play and making a note of any that worked particularly well in the Favourite Play chart at the back of this book. As your repertoire expands, and you add ideas of your own, you can check with this list and revisit those favourite activities when you’re stuck for an idea. By continuing to add more winning ways to play to your list of tried-and-tested, go-to ideas, you will create a bespoke play-planner that’s perfect for your family (see here).
A quick guide to baby and preschool play
How can we recognise play?
Young children have a natural drive to be playful and to find every opportunity to play; they have a talent to be totally and busily absorbed in whatever they’re playing. It can be hard for us grown ups to recognise play sometimes – let alone define it – as we’re often so busy ourselves, or feeding, changing and cleaning up around our little ones that we don’t really see what’s going
