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First published in 1997 by Finch Publishing Pty Ltd, Australia
Revised and updated edition published in 2010 by HarperThorsons
This revised and updated edition 2018
Text © Stephen and Shaaron Biddulph 1998, 2003, 2008, 2018
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Illustrations by Paul Stanish
Permissions: The author gratefully acknowledges the permission of the following for the right to reproduce copyright material in this publication: ‘What Fathers Do’ by Jack Kammer, is reprinted from Full-Time Dads, May/June 1995 Issue, with the permission of the author; six myths of porn is reprinted from Elizabeth Clark, Love, Sex and No Regrets for Today’s Teens (Finch, Sydney, 2017).
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Source ISBN: 9780008283674
Ebook Edition © April 2018 ISBN: 9780007519736
Version: 2018-03-28
In memory of Joan Biddulph
1928–2017
for words, laughter, and big skies
Contents
7 Developing a Healthy Sexuality
Appendix: Do Gender Differences Exist, and Do They Matter?
Boyhood is transforming; that’s it in a nutshell. If you’ve been in any school gate or online conversations in the past twenty years, you’ll know that things are on the move. We’re learning how to make boyhood a happier place, and that knowledge is saving lives.
The book you hold in your hand had a very interesting effect that echoed around the world – it was as if a million mothers and fathers all at once gave an enormous sigh of relief. (Our boy is normal!) For one thing, the book cut through the endless argument between nature and nurture by saying, ‘It’s both.’ But nurture is the one we can do something about, so let’s get started.
In a world where so many boys struggled, there was a desperate need for a new approach. Raising
