become available to you. You will come out of it refreshed. You will come out of it reborn; again as a child, full of joy, inquiry, adventure, ecstasy.
Don’t get identified with the ego, although, as far as the world is concerned, you have to function as an ego. That is only utilitarian. You have to use the word I, use the word I. But remember that it is only a word. It has a certain utility, and without it life will become impossible. If you stop using the word I completely, life will become impossible. We know names are only utilitarian; nobody is born with a name. I am not saying to drop the name and throw your passport into the river. Then you will be in trouble! You need a name; that is a necessity because you live with so many people.
If you are alone in the world, then of course there is no need to carry a passport. If you are alone – for example, if the Third World War happens and Joyce is left alone… Then there is no need to carry a passport. You can throw it anywhere. Then there is no need to have any name. Even if you have one it is useless, nobody ever calls you. Then there is no need to even use the word I because I needs a thou and without a thou, the I is meaningless. It has meaning only in the context of others.
So don’t misunderstand me. Use your ego, but use it just like you use your shoes and your umbrella and your clothes. When it is raining use the umbrella, but don’t go on carrying it unnecessarily. And don’t go to bed with the umbrella. And don’t be afraid that in a dream it may rain… The umbrella has a utility, so use it when it is needed. But don’t become so identified with the umbrella that you cannot put it aside. Use your shoes, use your clothes, use a name. They are all utilities, not realities.
In the world, when so many people are there, we need a few labels, a few symbols; just to mark, just to make sure who is who.
You say, “I know you want us all to rid ourselves of our egos and minds…” I am not saying to “get rid,” I am simply saying to be master of your minds. I am not telling you to be mindless. I am only saying, don’t just be minds. You are far more. Be consciousnesses! Then the mind becomes a small thing. You can use it whenever needed, and whenever not needed you can put it off.
I am using my mind when I am talking to you. The mind has to be used; there is no other way. But the moment I enter my room, then I don’t go on using it. There is no point. Then I am simply silent. With you I am using the language, the words, but when I am with myself there is no need for any language, for any words. When I am settled into myself and there is no question of communication, language disappears. Then there is a totally different kind of consciousness.
Right now my consciousness is flowing through the mind, using the mechanism of the mind to approach you. I can reach for you with my hand, but I am not the hand. When I touch you with my hand, the hand is only a means. Something else is touching you through the hand. The body has to be used, the mind has to be used, the ego, the language: all kinds of things have to be used. And you are allowed to use them, with one condition only, remain the master.
The fourth question.
Osho,
The other day you answered my question about loving three women. A few things have happened since then. In the first place, I missed you because I was not in the discourse but in the arms of the chosen one, which turned out to be a bad choice because she ran straight away and into the arms of somebody else after she realized that she was chosen. Then, in spite of this, the little commune has grown into five women now. One woman is hell, but what to say about five? But I have got a little help from my friends. For instance, Hamid has suggested I turn gay and has offered me a date with him. Vivek suggested that I wait until there are seven. But please, Osho, before I disappear into the seventh hell, I have already lost three kilos in weight. You offered to buy me out. Can’t we talk business now? I really mean it!
A preacher was listening to a young man confess his sins. In the middle of it he stopped him. “Wait a minute, young man,” he said, “you ain’t confessin’, you are braggin’.”
Now you have started bragging! I know perfectly well… Because I am in contact with your three women too. I also mean business! You don’t have five. You have even lost the three. And today you are here because there is nobody you can be with!
Hamid is generous, but remember he is an Iranian!
One day, back when the draft was still in effect, Glascox received his induction notice. He reported to his draft board and confessed that he was a homosexual. “Queer, huh?” one member grunted. “Do you think you could kill a man?”
“Oh, yes,” giggled Glascox, “but it would take me quite a while!”
And let me make you aware that before you can kill an Iranian, the Iranian will kill you! So avoid Hamid. He is generous, but avoid! He is also tired of women. He has just separated from Divya, so he must be feeling lonely.
Vivek’s suggestion is very esoteric. She is becoming a little esoteric, by and by. Being the chief medium, she has many esoteric mediums under her, so she is learning a few esoteric numbers. Seven is really dangerous!
And your guess is right. Seven women will lead you to the seventh hell. That is the last, rock bottom, you cannot fall below that. Vivek must have suggested it so that once you have fallen to rock bottom, you start rising back up because there is nowhere else to go.
You say you have lost three kilos in weight. Your weighing machine is not functioning well. You must have lost more! It is really strange why women are called the weaker sex. They are not. Man is the weaker sex.
Danny discovered his wife was cheating with another guy, so he went to this guy’s wife and told her about it. “I know what we will do,” she said, “let’s take revenge on them.”
So they went to a motel and had revenge on them. She said, “Let’s have more revenge.” And they kept having revenge, revenge…
Finally Danny said, “That’s enough revenge. I have no more hard feelings left.”
Be a little careful. This is just the beginning!
A couple wakes up after the first night of their honeymoon. She sits up in bed, looks at her husband who is lying naked next to her and says in a surprised voice, “Darling, did we use him all up in one night?”
This happens to almost every new male sannyasin in the beginning. Finding so many women here he goes crazy. But within a few weeks he comes to his senses and then a totally reverse process sets in. First he chases women. After a few weeks the women start chasing men and they start escaping.
Many women have reported to me, “What has happened here to male sannyasins? They don’t seem to be much interested in women. They don’t approach women, they avoid them. Rather than taking the initiative, they escape. The moment they see a woman chasing them, they escape.”
What happens in the ordinary world is that man has enough to imagine, to fantasize about because society does not allow you many relationships with women; only one woman. And you get tired, you get bored. Your mind starts roaming around. All the women who don’t belong to you look tremendously beautiful, just stunning because they are not available. Your mind starts fancying. Your mind goes into trips.
Here it is totally different. This commune lives the future now. This is how it is going to be all over the world sooner or later. This commune heralds a new consciousness. A consciousness rooted in freedom. Up to now you have lived in a deep slavery, psychological slavery.
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