and awareness of all the different choices out there means that they can constantly sit on the fence, making no decisions and doing nothing at all or, like a slippery fish, making themselves impossible to pin down. They can also come across as indecisive and ineffective, promising much but delivering little. Often lacking firm boundaries and the ability to structure and manage their time effectively, they can quickly earn a reputation for being unreliable. In addition, their high sensitivity means that they can slip into the role of victim, and any kind of criticism or boundary-setting can make them feel incredibly negative and insecure. Their confidence can be easily knocked sideways and, instead of learning how to deal with rejection or criticism in a positive way, they may try to numb their feelings through addictive behavior.
The moods of Pisceans are often changeable and sometimes these shifts can go from one wild extreme to another. Other people can have a hard time trying to understand where they are coming from and may feel that they have to walk on egg shells around them in case they upset them. Also, Pisceans can end up resorting to lying or manipulation to avoid being blamed for anything. As they belong to the most impressionable and gullible sign of the zodiac, they can attract toxic people or energy vampires into their lives who don’t have their best interests at heart. They can believe in and trust anyone and anything except themselves, and this lack of self-belief is often their biggest roadblock to achieving success and happiness in life.
Darkest secrets
Pisceans can appear easy-going, gentle and lovely, but underneath the surface they are people of extremes. They can suffer from serious mood swings and can overcompensate for their inconsistencies with a fierce temper. Working for the greater good is essential for them to truly thrive, but they won’t flourish unless they deal with their self-esteem issues first. They can lose themselves in endless dreaming and planning, and become people who are all talk and no action. Once they learn to recognize their strengths and underused talents, the key to their success is to stop dreaming and start doing.
Symbol
The Pisces symbol is two fishes swimming away from each other, and it is a perfect illustration of the broad vision but also the constant awareness of choice that defines the Piscean personality. Swim apart or stick together? The Piscean considers all options. Their nature is to be fluid and to empathize with both sides, as well as with what is above and beneath them.
Love
Pisceans take to relationships like a fish to water. Romantic and tender rather than passionate in their love-making, they thrive with partners who are dreamy and deep, like them, but who also offer them stability and calm as a counter-balance to their highs and lows. Sometimes they can be shy and introspective and hard to pin down because they lack self-belief. They need to learn to love themselves first, before they can fall in love with others.
Compassionate and self-sacrificing by nature, they can be deeply hurt when others betray or reject them, but sometimes the deep pain of heartbreak can be the making of them. It teaches them that the only path to healing is to discover within themselves what they hope someone else will bestow on them—in other words, to understand that alone they can be enough.
When they do fall in love with someone, they do so deeply and pour all of themselves—mind, body and soul—into the relationship. This can be both wonderfully magical and romantic, but also overwhelming for their partner. Pisceans tend to put their loved ones on pedestals, but over time they can learn to accept reality and realize that it is impossible for every relationship to be sunshine and roses all the time.
Love matches: Capricorn, Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio.
The Piscean woman
Caring, sensitive, mysterious and with little or no inclination to dominate in a relationship, the Piscean woman is often surrounded by ardent admirers. Delightfully feminine and charming, with the ability to adapt to any social setting and devoted to the wellbeing of others, she has a touching aura of vulnerability.
Even though she can appear fragile, this does not mean that the Piscean woman is a pushover. Indeed, she is much stronger than she often appears to be and more capable of looking after herself than anyone may give her credit for, including herself. If she is hurt or betrayed, she can lash out fiercely with hurtful anger and sarcasm, though being critical or harsh isn’t in her nature. She is a compassionate and tolerant person and her first instinct is to trust and support, to heal and help. She is loyal to a fault, but there is often a frustrating, elusive quality about her and an unwillingness to give direct answers. Trying to figure her out can take a lifetime, but it is well worth the effort.
Despite her ability to merge with and give completely of herself to others, there will always be something mysterious and lonely about this woman, however many loved ones she surrounds herself with. At times, it can feel as if she is in sole possession of a truth that is too deep to express with words. People who want to get close to this compassionate and magical creature need to learn to accept her elusive and constantly shifting quality.
The Piscean man
The Piscean man often appears as the answer to your dreams. He is a romantic dreamer and when he falls in love it is deep—so deep it can feel utterly intoxicating. You are swept off your feet. He merges himself with every aspect of your life. Problems can arise, though, if a partner wants to have some space and freedom in the relationship. The Piscean man may take this as a rejection and find it hard to step back. This isn’t necessarily because he is needy or co-dependent, but because he identifies himself so much with another person that creating distance can feel like a rejection and trigger deep insecurities. Once he has merged with another person, he can quite literally feel their pain and sense what they are thinking.
The Piscean man will be their partner’s biggest fan, encouraging them to live their dreams. However, it is crucial for the success of the relationship that he does not forget about his own dreams and that he is encouraged to transform those dreams into reality, because, more often than not, his ideas have great potential for success. He does not crave material things or need worldly success to feel fulfilled, but he does need to feel loved and encouraged. His sensitivity and mood swings can be alarming at times. His partner can love and support him during the low times, but the only person who can truly save him and help him rise up and feel whole again is himself.
The Piscean man may be sensitive, but relationships with him can be utterly enchanting. Once he learns to trust his instincts and believe in himself, he has the uncanny ability to plunge into the unknown and surface with hidden treasures, renewed optimism and a vision for a better future.
Family
Piscean children are often described as old souls. They seem wise beyond their years. They have a tendency to exaggerate and embellish the truth to please others and also because their dreams feel so real to them. It is important they learn from an early age the importance of telling the truth. Often imaginative, they should be encouraged to develop their creativity in every way. They can suffer from shyness or lack of self-confidence and don’t thrive in a competitive environment, losing motivation if others do better than them. Their parents or carers need to help them understand that there is no such thing as failure if they can learn from it, and the only person they need to compete against is themselves. Piscean
