statistics presented in our books as facts are accurate and up-to-date. To protect their privacy, the names of some of the people, places, and institutions in this book have been changed.
Author’s Note: The approach used in this book reflects the treatment model that is used at Hope & Freedom Counseling Services as well by Certified Hope & Freedom Practitioners (CHFP) who have been trained in the Hope & Freedom treatment model.
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To Gerald and Gayle
Who have worked tirelessly to help men and women
overcome the adverse impact of sex addiction,
and model restoration for other couples
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Preface
Acknowledgments
Introduction
Part One: The Avenue to Addiction
Chapter 1: The Role of Family of Origin
Chapter 2: Abuse
Chapter 3: Addiction and the Brain
Chapter 4: Other Risk Factors
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)
Narcissistic and Other Personality Disorders
Chapter 5: The Role of Pornography
Chapter 6: The Progression of Sex Addiction
Sex Addiction’s Relationship to Other Forms of Addiction
Chapter 7: General Questions about Sex Addiction
Chapter 8: Questions about Sex Addiction from Partners
Chapter 9: Is There Any Hope?
Part Two: The Road to Recovery
Chapter 10: Recovery Basics
Things to Start
Things to Stop
Things to Change
The Free Stuff Is Priceless
Chapter 11: General Questions about Recovery
Part Three: The Highway to Healing—The Partner’s Journey
Chapter 12: Recovery Basics for Partners
It’s Not Your Fault!
Twelve-Step Meetings for Partners
Other Support Groups
Other Possible Options
Starting Your Own Recovery Journey
Chapter 13: Why Did He Do It?
Chapter 14: Whom Do I Tell?
Chapter 15: Moving Forward
Educate Yourself about Sex Addiction
Do Your Own Healing and Recovery Work
Detach. Detach. Detach.
Determine What You Need If You Are Going to Stay
Develop a Plan for Asking for the Recovery Work You Need from Your Husband
Follow Through and Have That Conversation
Step Back and Watch and Wait for a Predetermined Length of Time
Signs He’s Working to Gain Freedom and True Change
Chapter 16: Questions about Recovery from Partners
Chapter 17: Coping with Trauma
Chapter 18: Legal and Financial Protection for Partners
