You Can Change Other People. Howie Jacobson
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Table of Contents
1 COVER
5 FOREWORD
6 PART ONE: A NEW WAY TO HELP PEOPLE (BECAUSE THE OLD WAYS DON'T WORK) CHAPTER 1: WHY IT'S IMPORTANT TO CHANGE OTHER PEOPLE CAN YOU REALLY CHANGE OTHER PEOPLE? A TOUR OF THE BOOK NOTES CHAPTER 2: PEOPLE DON'T RESIST CHANGE—THEY RESIST BEING CHANGED CHAPTER 3: POWER 1: OWNERSHIP NOTE CHAPTER 4: POWER 2: INDEPENDENT CAPABILITY CHAPTER 5: POWER 3: EMOTIONAL COURAGE CHAPTER 6: POWER 4: FUTURE-PROOFING
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PART TWO: THE FOUR STEPS
STEP ONE: SHIFT FROM CRITIC TO ALLY
CHAPTER 7: BECOME AN ALLY
CHAPTER 8: BE YOUR OWN ALLY FIRST
BODY
MIND
EMOTIONS
INTENT
CHAPTER 9: THEN BE YOUR PARTNER'S ALLY
CHAPTER 10: HOW TO GET PERMISSION TO HELP
THE PERMISSION FORMULA
NOTE
CHAPTER 11: HOW TO INITIATE THE CONVERSATION
CHAPTER 12: DON'T RELY ON YOUR POSITION OF POWER
HOW TO USE POSITIONAL POWER IN THE WORKPLACE
CHAPTER 13: STAY ON TRACK
GETTING STUCK IN A COMPLAINT/EMPATHY LOOP
FORCING A YES
REFUSING TO TAKE “NO” FOR AN ANSWER
RUSHING
BECOMING DEFENSIVE
STEP 2: IDENTIFY AN ENERGIZING OUTCOME
CHAPTER 14: PROBLEMS ARE SIGNPOSTS POINTING TO ENERGIZING OUTCOMES
CHAPTER 15: MAKE IT POSITIVE
CHAPTER 16: MAKE IT CLEAR
USING EMPATHY TO DRIVE CLARITY
CHAPTER 17: MAKE IT MEANINGFUL
STEP 3: FIND THE HIDDEN OPPORTUNITY
CHAPTER 18: BECOME A SCIENTIST
THE OPPORTUNITY STEP IN ACTION
CHAPTER 19: QUESTION 1: WHAT'S HAPPENING NOW?
SEPARATING DATA FROM INTERPRETATION
HOW TO SHIFT FROM GENERALIZATIONS TO SPECIFICS
CHAPTER 20: QUESTION 2: WHAT HAVE YOU TRIED?
AND WHAT ELSE?
AND WHAT ELSE?
WHAT DID THAT LOOK LIKE?
PAST ATTEMPTS CAN TELL YOU WHY THEY'RE STUCK
WHAT IF THEY HAVEN'T TRIED ANYTHING?
CHAPTER 21: QUESTION 3: HOW CAN YOU USE THE PROBLEM TO ACHIEVE YOUR ENERGIZING OUTCOME?
FIND THE UPSIDE IN THE DOWNSIDE
FIND THE SYSTEM UPGRADE OPPORTUNITY
WHEN THE PROBLEM LOOKS LIKE A SKILLS GAP
THE OPPORTUNITY IN A DYSFUNCTIONAL HABIT
THE OPPORTUNITY IN FEAR
CHAPTER 22: HOW NOT TO GET DISTRACTED
DISTRACTION: BLAMING OTHERS
DISTRACTION: SELF-CRITICISM
DISTRACTION: FEAR THAT THE FUTURE WILL ECHO THE PAST
HOW TO BECOME DISTRACTION-PROOF: EMOTIONAL COURAGE
STEP 4: CREATE A LEVEL-10 PLAN
CHAPTER 23: CRAFT THE PLAN
CHAPTER 24: TASK 1: IDENTIFY OPTIONS
TIPS TO HELP IDENTIFY OPTIONS
WHAT ELSE?
WHAT