The New Father. Armin A. Brott

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       Getting to Know You

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       First Smiles

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       Let the Games Begin

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       Born to Be …

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       Work and Family

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       Gaining Confidence

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       A Whole New Kind of Love

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       Perpetual Motion

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       The Building Blocks of Development

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       Forming an Identity

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       Planes, Trains, and Automobiles

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       There Now, That Wasn’t So Bad, Was It?

       APPENDIXES

       Resources

       Books for Babies

       Height and Weight Charts

       Selected Bibliography

       Acknowledgments

       Index

       Illustration Credits

       Over 1,000,000 Fatherhood Books in Print

       Copyright Page

      Introduction

      Nobody really knows how or when it started, but one of the most widespread—and most cherished—myths about child-rearing is that women are naturally more nurturing than men, that they are instinctively better at the parenting thing, and that men are nearly incompetent.

      The facts, however, tell a very different story. A significant amount of research has proven that men are inherently just as nurturing and responsive to their children’s needs as women. What too many men (and women) don’t realize is that to the extent that women are “better” parents, it’s simply because they’ve had more practice. In fact, the single most important factor in determining the depth of long-term father-child relationships is opportunity.

      Basically, it comes down to this: “Having children makes you no more a parent than having a piano makes you a pianist,” writes author Michael Levine in Lessons at the Halfway Point.

      Men and women parent differently in a wide variety of ways:

      • Dads tend to play more with their children than mothers do, and that play tends to be more rough-and-tumble and more unpredictable than mothers’. In other words, dads are more likely than moms to become human jungle gyms.

      • Dads tend to emphasize independence more than moms and give children more freedom to explore. If a baby is struggling to grab a toy that’s just out of reach, mothers are more likely to move the toy closer, while dads are more likely to wait a little longer, seeing whether the baby will be able to get it. Moms are more likely to pick up a toddler who’s fallen, while dads are more likely to encourage the child to get up on his own.

      • Dads tend to use more complex speech patterns than mothers, who tend to simplify what they’re saying and slow it down. Dads also tend to ask their babies more open-ended questions (who, what, where, when, why) than moms, an approach that helps kids expand their vocabulary.

      • Dads tend to think more about how a child will fare in the world as he or she grows; moms tend to think more about the child’s emotional development. When reacting to a test score, for example, a dad might be concerned about how the score will affect the child’s future plans and ability to be self-sufficient, while a mom is more likely to be concerned about how the

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