off that the colleague sees his / her job only as work and not as a task, then you should take action.
The solution: address this in private. Announce your criticism and formulate it from a first-person perspective: “I understand that you want to be on time with your football club. The consequence for me, however, is that I still have to do your work. I therefore feel overworked. How can we change that? ”
2. The thief of ideas
He or she is always at the forefront of the mouth and spends your ideas in front of the boss as his / her.
The solution: Communicate your ideas clearly in front of the team and the boss, which makes it difficult for the idea thief to “steal your mouth”. You can also sketch ideas in writing. Say if it was your idea. "Wait a minute, I already suggested that on Thursday?"
3. The self-portrayal
He and less often she does not speak and work. He often works as a manager or in sales. Suggest to switch roles in a “team project”.
The solution: The organization of the next Christmas party. While you inform your colleagues and give a speech, the self-porter should take over the organization. Quasi as a self-awareness exercise for both sides.
4. The Nagger
He, rarely she, has something to complain about. That annoys you and the team! Talk to your colleague about it, but please do it in private.
Arrange a self-experience exercise, for example one in which the colleague does not complain for a day; for this you criticize for eight hours what the stuff holds. In the end, you drink a café together and share what you have felt and experienced in the other role.
5. The wrong boss
He, often she too, wasn't actually born to be a boss. But the top management has punished him or does not see the incompetence. First of all: You cannot change the situation, only yourself.
You often experience weaknesses in the boss when you feel superior in “high status” to the boss, who, on the other hand, takes a “low status” in your eyes because he appears insecure or weak in making decisions.
The solution: consciously make yourself smaller, behave more slowly, more carefully, reduce your self-confidence when dealing with this boss - you will see that this will give you better access to your supervisor.
Conclusion: The cooperation works depending on the type
In order for teamwork to succeed, there must always be several factors right. And of course it depends on the right composition in the team.
With the right communication, even the most difficult colleague can become easy. Conversely, there are colleagues with whom the cooperation does not want to succeed even with the best will. Then you should take the consequences and separate yourself, for example by asking to be transferred to another team or, if that is not possible, quitting.
Social Competence and Communication: 8 Reasons Why teamwork is worthwhile
// By Dr. Cornelia Topf
Isn't it difficult enough to clarify and represent your own interests? Does it really make sense to take those of others into account? Isn't it much easier to just look at yourself, according to the motto: “When everyone thinks of themselves, everyone is also thought of!”
What brings me all this?
Granted, alterocentration can be really exhausting. One always asks oneself the question: what does all this bring me?
Caught. The last question must be: What brings us all this? Some of the answers lie in the beginnings of human history:
1. Together, more successful
Even then, an individual would have been hard pressed to hunt alone. The prospect of rich prey in the group was significantly greater, which is why the ability to cooperate was formed. These days you probably will not hunt with your neighbor to get your dinner.
But what do you do if you have an urgent problem and need someone to talk? Are not you happy, too, if your coach, your partner, your coach has an open ear for you?
2. Alterocentricity promotes good health
“The good deed”, namely alter-focusing, not only promotes understanding, understanding and relationship, it also promotes your own health.
Listening to others, engaging in their desires and needs often results in more than a thousand words. Give your partner a smile. Your partner will have the feeling of being taken seriously and appreciated by you. He will be happy to come to you and to seek contact with you - and also like to do business with you.
3. The soft success factors
Alter focus, sympathy and empathy are “soft” success factors. It is also a good feeling when I know that the partner is giving me his full trust. At the same time, you benefit from it yourself, because a smile relaxes, relieves stress and releases valuable happiness hormones. Acting in an oriented manner is worthwhile!
Openness for the opinion of your interlocutor and consideration for his situation signal understanding and sympathy. Your partner feels in good hands with you and agrees with your suggestions, rather than if he passes by, does not hear and does not see, talked to the wall.
4. Negotiate successfully
But this is not only the case, but you are also quicker to reach your goal with age centering. Do not you believe? Then consider this:
Nobody cooperates or contracts with people who talk exclusively about their concepts, ideas and ideas and simply ignore your questions, interests and needs.
5. Mastering challenges better
Your supervisor asked you to hold a presentation. OK, you will think and read quickly these studies, this one essay, ah, since there was still this article in a specialist magazine. Forget it.
If you waste your thoughts less on content, think about it:
How do I react to my listeners?
Is that what I want to convey to my listeners?
How can I respond to their needs?
6. Convince by alterozentriertes action
Of course, the facts must be sitting, but most you can sleep anyway. Your boss will trust you, so why should you doubt yourself? Decisive for the success in your presentation will be how well you come over.
Through age-centric action,
