Sexual Identity and Orientation
Doing Away with the Sedentary Days
Parenting as a Spiritual Practice
We are all aware of how challenging it is today to raise our kids. The pressure parents are confronted with is unprecedented. But it pales in comparison to the profound emotional impact of recent technological, social, cultural, and academic stressors on our children, and all of the overwhelming anxiety and depression they are suffering at shockingly early ages. John’s new book is a user-friendly guide through the morass, and it will help you maintain a strong, positive, and joyful connection with your child.
Already at only seven-years-old, our son Duke’s world is unrecognizable to us. He is bombarded with so much more data and stimulation than we were, and therefore has so much more on his emotional and intellectual plate. We are so excited to have this timely and powerful resource to help us now, and provide us strategies for what lies ahead.
We’ve known John on a personal and professional level for many years. He is our go-to for parenting and relationship questions. His advice is always honest, constructive, solid, and enlightening.
John is the real deal. He works with parents and kids in his practice every day. He knows what kids are dealing with, what their struggles are, where their strengths lie, what they know, and what they need.
Every parent needs to read this book. John gives parents a deep, clear understanding of our children’s world and gives them tools to help navigate and thrive through it all.
Giuliana And Bill Rancic
E! News anchor and entrepreneur, respectively
I love writing. I really do. And several years ago, I experienced the good fortune of knocking a large, significant item off my personal bucket list: I published a book. Not only that, I felt as if I published an important book, one that mattered, one that would, if taken seriously, drive a significant positive change in the lives of families, specifically those of teenagers and their parents.
I told stories. I dispelled myths. I drew from many years of direct clinical work, and came up with a truly user-friendly framework for parents of teenagers, one that I knew turned some of the more traditional models and belief systems about teens on their heads. I was proud of it, and still am. I had my say and, as far as I was concerned, I was done with the matter. I freed myself to move on to write something lighter, perhaps existential and Eastern-derived, more philosophical than psychological, something a little more Nietzsche and a little less niche-y.
(Apologies for that. Couldn’t resist.)
In any event, this shift in focus was not meant to be. Here am I to address that parent-teen relationship once again, in full recognition that, in the fleeting few years between publication of The Available Parent and the present, the world of our teens and of their parents has changed so dramatically, so thoroughly, that the subject requires revisiting.
I am finding that parenting today is a more urgent matter than it was even those few short years ago. The stakes are higher, the dangers greater, the threats to self-worth and self-esteem wildly more pervasive.
And what looks like misbehavior, checking out, dropping out, refusing to go, are most likely overcorrections, adaptive mechanisms to relieve the stress of the perfectionistic, hyper-driven AP student, crushing it while secretly cutting herself for relief, or sneaking a Juul or weed break after her parents are fast asleep. These days, no child escapes childhood unscathed. Our generation by and large created this dynamic. It is ours to fix. We owe it to our kids.
For the stress is truly absurd and immeasurable, and the shift toward a manageable teenage life is the new mandate, imperative for all parents of teens or soon-to-be-teens.
So, help a guy out. I’m a writer. I’ve got ideas, maybe a novel or a play in me. Help me make this the last book I write on parenting.
Please.
I have enormous admiration for this generation of teenagers. They are kind and they are thoughtful, and they are worldly. They have a sense of justice that I don’t remember having a concept of when I was their age. They are exposed to the harshest elements of the world much too soon. If I could reverse some of that for their growing minds, I would. But the upside is that we are unwittingly raising wonderful people who have this thoughtful, compassionate worldview that we may have lacked.
I personally didn’t have much of a point of view at age eight, eleven, even seventeen. Today, I don’t know many kids
