Welcoming a New Brother or Sister Through Adoption. Arleta James

      Jessica Kingsley Publishers

      London and Philadelphia

      Permission has been granted by Josh Kroll, of NACAC, for use of “What Am I Willing to do?” chart in Chapter 4.

      Permission has been given by Dr. Wayne Deuhn for use of “Family sexual policies” list in Chapter 5.

      Permission for the charts in the Appendix has been obtained from Zero to Three: National Centre for Infants, Toddlers, and Families, the Child development Institute and Toddler Adoption: The Weaver’s Craft by Mary Hopkins-Best (London: Jessica Kingsley Publishers).

      First published in 2013

      by Jessica Kingsley Publishers

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      Copyright © Arleta James 2013

      Foreword copyright © Gregory C. Keck 2013

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      Library of Congress Cataloging in Publication Data

      James, Arleta M., 1960-

      Welcoming a new brother or sister through adoption : from navigating new relationships to building a loving family / Arleta James ; foreword by Gregory C. Keck.

      p. cm.

      Includes bibliographical references and index.

      ISBN 978-1-84905-903-9 (alk. paper)

      1. Adopted children--Family relationships. 2. Adoptive parents--Family relationships. 3. Brothers and sisters--Family relationships. I. Title.

      HV875.J364 2013

      362.734--dc23

      2012041428

      British Library Cataloguing in Publication Data

      A CIP catalogue record for this book is available from the British Library

      ISBN 978 1 84905 903 9

      eISBN 978 0 85700 653 0

      Printed and bound in the United States

      This book is dedicated to my family: my father—resting in peace, my mother, and my two sisters.

      Contents

       Foreword by Gregory C. Keck

       ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

       Introduction

       1“I’m Getting a Brother or Sister!”