for what you desire.
In my case, I went from wanting it all, the whole pack, to not wanting anything for myself. I will explain what this means further on. Before you pity me, or think that I have gone insane, I should clarify that I am quite happy, and have not fallen into disillusion or inactivity.
As a coach, I was prepared to help accomplish the wishes of other people. And mine too! It was fun to prove how far I could go using the coaching technique, because it works. In truth, I went very far. I got the kind of life that I wanted and, one by one, my dreams were being fulfilled.
But achieving it all seemed a little ambitious.
Please, do not misinterpret me. I did not feel greed, nor vanity, nor an outburst of pride... I simply perceived that such a career would be an endless one. I moved inside a wheel that never stopped, setting goals and achieving results endlessly. This could, surely, make any person happy, but it seemed to me of little importance. Because, apart from fulfilling my mundane desires, I really wanted to know who or what was the cause of those amazing results.
I was successful, but that was not enough: I needed to know what was behind those predictable miracles. I wanted to get inside the universal kitchen and know who was the cook of every course in front of me.
That is, truly, being ambitious.
I wanted to know the source of everything known; wake up from the slumber-nightmare; know how the horn of abundance functioned. Like Forrest Gump, that fictional character that suddenly, after questioning why he ran, stopped one day, I too searched for another way of materializing desire. It made no sense to do so many things, so much effort, so many plans, so many objectives, so much work, and so much ego.
Now I know I do not have to do anything.
But I have also arrived at one conclusion, a paradox: to afford the luxury of renouncing your desires, and even freeing yourself of them, you have to have proved to yourself that you can attain them! In other words: to transcend success, first you have to have had success.
It was at that moment that I decided to give all my wishes to Love, to the Presence which is the source of all things I sensed in myself. Hang on tight: I accepted that, in reality, I did not know what was best for me, and that I was wrong almost every single time I tried to guess. I achieved many goals, thanks to the fact that I mastered the science of success, but once I verified that I was able to attain what I desired, I had the conviction that there had to be something much better than making my wishes come true.
Yes, you have read correctly: there is something much better than achieving your desires.
My first step was consecrating all the deeds I did toward Love. My ego was cast aside, giving way to my “I Am.” I handed my future life to the Divinity, the Absolute, the Enlightened, the Being, the Real, to Love... My second step was to entrust my goals to the Presence, the One, the will of God. And that relaxed me: I no longer had to make decisions, it was simply a matter of following the internal guide of Love.
I starting delegating in God. It is something I can really recommend, for it is very liberating. From that day, I stopped running, like Gump (bottom line is, why so much running?). I abandoned conventional coaching and started the era of Supercoaching, “conscious coaching” or “enlightened coaching.”
To abbreviate, I will say that a series of changes in my life led me to think that I was awaking from a deep slumber. It had been, of course, in recent years, a beautiful dream; but that did not make it less of a fictitious dreamscape.
Let us understand: it was not that I did not want anything, since wanting nothing is already wanting something. I wanted one thing... only one: to wake up. To make this life truly worth living. To awaken and stay awake became my sole objective, and I continued to pursue it. It took a long time for me to acquire that mental clarity, and I was not willing to replace it with my ego’s newest yearning, so I gave that goal all my effort.
You hand your life to God, and God grants you life. What happens next is that you enter a state of Grace (I will speak of this further toward the end of the book), which provides everything you may need, and more. Door that previously remained shut are suddenly wide open, and opportunities you had never even dreamt of suddenly reveal themselves to you.
However, this does not imply that everything will happen, because you do not need for everything that goes through your head to happen; but everything that really matters does happen.
I became an “enlightened coach,” without base and personal desires, perhaps not able to attain more things, but certainly able to attain those I valued. Three great differences distanced me from my past self:
1 An immense inner peace, without conflicts, upon acknowledging that I was guided and accompanied by an inconceivable loving intelligence.
2 An immense relaxation and calmness, since I no longer needed to struggle at all, everything happened with ease.
3 An immense certainty and security, since I knew who or what walked beside me.
For this to happen, I first had to free myself from myself, and from my agenda. Thankfully, it was not something hard to give up, nor an elevated price to pay, compared with the reward.
I am conscious that you cannot ask an urbanite to lead the life of an ascetic. I do not lead such a life. Many times, traditional spiritual recipes are designed for a world and culture that no longer exist, much less in the Western Hemisphere. But it is in the day-to-day where we need to practice what we learn in the sacred texts.
We all have families to take care of, demanding jobs, and gas tanks to fill up, complicated social lives, and live surrounded by an ever increasing complexity that barely allows us a breather to invest time in the big questions:
Who am I?
Where do I come from?
What is the sense of everything?
This book will answer those questions. This book only asks for a few hours in exchange for infinity.
Today, the Western Hemisphere and, perhaps, the whole world, is full of people disillusioned with spiritual fast food (religion), people who seek low-cost enlightenment, that does not demand the sacrifice of modern and urban lifestyles. So I set my mind toward writing an enjoyable and light book about awakening and low-cost enlightenment, without sacrifices or radical changes.
This book develops an idea that is shocking to most: you are not who you think you are. In a certain way, you are an impostor, a phony; please do not misinterpret my meaning, since it is not ill-willed. You have usurped your real identity. But I will emplace you in front of the mirror, to show you who or what you really are.
I have tried to simplify complex oriental concepts. In the glossary, at the end of the book, I offer a clarifying overview of these concepts.
The first key to understanding this book is to consider, at every moment, that there is no separation (duality), that there are no dual individuals. And, given that there is no separate self, then there is no need to improve it. If you are able to recall your reading, everything will be very clear. We will return to this essential point later on. The second key is that life is impersonal, there are no individuals.
There is nothing external to your own self. The quality of reality is absolute correlation. The quality of slumber is absolute disaggregation.
