to have sex. If you wanted sex, you should have cooked dinner while I helped with homework. Got the kids bathed and ready for bed while I did the dishes, since you made dinner. I don’t have a partner, so I can be stuck doing everything. I chose having a partner because I thought we were in this together. I didn’t want someone who was just going to sit and watch me do all the work and then say, “You didn’t tell me you needed help.” REALLY???
If you had that attitude at work, you would be fired. Give me a break! I’m so sick of being exhausted all the time. Sometimes I look at my friends who are single moms, and I wonder how much harder that really is, if I’m doing everything already. I didn’t sign up for this. How can you not see that it’s wrong for you to be relaxing if I’m still working to get the kids and you taken care of? How can you not see the picture enough to take the reins and do something to help? Make a fucking chart if you need to, but don’t be sitting around doing your own personal stuff while I’m busting my ass. I want to relax and do personal stuff too.
A Fed-Up Me
How the Hell Did We Get Here?
A question many of us have asked ourselves as we fall into our assigned submissive roles as women
It has been a long time since we gained the right to vote, but are we any closer to being viewed with equal value? Has there been progress? Yes, there has been. Have there been setbacks? Well, duh!
Sometimes we are blinded by roles that have been passed down from generation to generation as acceptable. We have done so much to advance, but we are still limiting ourselves when we can’t see the worth of every individual. How are we going to get past color, race, sexual orientation, and religious belief if we can’t even get to the balance between his and her, yin and yang? Are we ready to open our eyes enough to see that we aren’t helping anyone by keeping someone else down? We don’t have to be against anyone. We can simply be for humanity. We are not in a competition to be better than anyone else. Our purpose is to be the best version of ourselves. So, I repeat, how the hell did we get here?
•Where are these beliefs about being less-than coming from?
•Where are we accepting unacceptable behavior?
•Are we communicating our feelings, or putting our energy into more of what we don’t want?
For women questioning faith…
Dear Spirit,
I don’t even know who is listening when I write this. Is it God? Is it a great void in the Universe? If there is a Being up there or in me somewhere, tell me, how the hell did we get here? I don’t even know what to call you anymore. I’m angry! I don’t know how in some cultures women are revered, and in others we are feared and kept small. I don’t get how people are still using religion as a tool against other people. Is that really what you want? Do you want people to feel more than or less than someone else? Am I supposed to love you or fear you? Am I supposed to love my neighbor or fear them? Am I supposed to love myself or not think of myself at all? It is so confusing. If I don’t understand where you stand, how am I possibly supposed to understand how to treat myself and others? Everything seems to be for or against; love or fear. If I have so much confusion with you, how am I not supposed to be confused dealing with other humans?
I can’t love and fear you at the same time. That is not peace. I can’t feel peace inside me if I’m in a constant battle about what you represent in my life and how to honor you and my fellow humans. My internal battle starts with my not understanding you.
Spiritually Lost
For women who are enraged by other women’s actions…
Dear Women-Bashing Women,
Now I feel like I have really seen it all. How do we expect men not to be against us when so many of us are against each other? You don’t agree with my parenting style—don’t do it! You don’t agree with my hairstyle—don’t get it done! You don’t like my clothes—don’t wear them! You don’t like what my life looks like—don’t choose to live like me! Even over all that, what really has me the most enraged is the women who are criticizing the brave women coming forward reporting abuse and harassment. ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME? REALLY?!?!
Who are you to say anything to a woman that brave? You should be thanking her. She is contributing to stopping a cycle, so it stops getting passed down from generation to generation. Our daughters won’t have to suffer as we did. Our daughters’ daughters will suffer less than they did. Then, at some point, girls won’t feel like they have to shut up and be quiet when a man tries to take advantage of them.
Just because you may have put up with it and it doesn’t bother you, that doesn’t mean that anyone who feels differently shouldn’t voice it. I won’t put up with any abuse so that you can feel comfortable. I’m done with women like you thinking you are representing the majority of women. You are for abuse if you can belittle a woman for coming forward. You are against women’s rights.
I’m sorry if you put up with this from parents, boyfriends, and/or husbands, but REALLY, do you think other women should have to shut up and be silent? Is that really what you think? These women aren’t whining. They finally have a place to raise their voices and say what they have been dying to say.
These are the women who would embrace you if you needed it, and you are turning your back on them. What are you hiding from? What is creating that dark wall inside you that can make you act so cruel? Do you really feel that little inside that you need to tear another woman down?
A Brave Woman’s Friend
For those who are fed up with the negativity on social media…
Dear Social Media Users,
Really? I mean REALLY! I’m at the point where I can’t stand social media anymore. We have spiritual beliefs and somehow, by practicing prayer, we are insulting others. If we are members of a minority and speak up, others may assume we are trying to represent our whole culture instead of just expressing our personal beliefs. Can’t we have our own personal opinions without it turning into a war? Christianity can’t agree on everything from church to church. Doctors don’t always agree on how to treat people. A man can’t be the voice of ALL men. A woman can’t be the voice of ALL women. We are each individuals who accomplish great things and make mistakes. We sometimes say things out of ignorance. It doesn’t mean we are sexist, racist, anti-gay, anti-religion, right-wing, left-wing, or anti-men.
Why are we so quick to judge instead of asking questions? If we see something we don’t like, why do we have to attack before we find out what was really happening? Why do we like to judge people and situations so negatively so fast? Now, I’m not saying that, if someone makes a completely racist or sexist comment, we shouldn’t call it out. And we do that by asking if that is what they meant and then educating them if they were just being ignorant.
But what I’m witnessing is that we are full of so much anger. I’m watching people spew out hate in responses to sometimes innocent or maybe ignorant people sharing a moment on social media. When did we become such a shaming society? Is that what social media brought us? Have we been being groomed for this? Are the haters really the majority?
A Terrified Me
Are You Uncomfortable Yet?
The question that will lead some to avoidance, denial, and addictions and others, who are ready to face all the darkness, to awareness, acceptance, and positive action
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