seem to get through their thick skull. But just because she is low on testosterone and responsive doesnât mean she doesnât enjoy sex. She does. Look, men are more like a sensory light. The sensory light detects movement and switches on automatically. Women on the other hand are like an electric stove. When you switch on an electric stove, it heats up gradually. When the cooking is over and you switch it off, the heat will gradually go off. Thatâs typical of a womanâs way of being aroused. Women view sex as largely emotional but men view sex as physical. Thatâs probably why that neighbor of mine said, ââmen are people who donât attach much to sex, they can just fuck for the sake of fucking.ââ Now, I didnât say that, she did... But then again, what turns on a man is different. He is looking at those curves, breasts, thighs and lips and canât help but want you immediately. The more he sees you on those jeans, shoes and skirts, is the more interested he becomes. But you are not driven to sex him because of that chino trouser he is wearing. You feel horny because of the way he treated you today. His looks and body may count, but your sex driving edge borders around treatment. If only men understood this...the world would be a better place.
Stage 1
Now, what happens when people have sex? Many of us think love is a complicated word and that we canât define it. Yes love is no simple word but sex it appears, is even more difficult to describe, especially as to how people feel when having sex and why. Some say they feel their mind goes blank. Others say itâs like a ride on virgin Atlantic. A blatantly honest guy says its like someone is hitting him with a hammer in the head and he is splitting into pieces. Is that so? This thing is strange. When people define love they donât say such crazy things but with sex, the descriptions you get are as good as opening a can of worms. Okay, now, if you are a gentleman who doesnât pounce on your lady without procedure, there should be foreplay at beginning of a sex act. But we are not there yet coz I have dedicated a whole chapter to foreplay. The first stage is the excitement stage. Am I right? During the excitement stage, the vagina becomes wet or lubricated some seconds, or minutes after proper foreplay has begun. The inner lips and the outer lips become bigger or ââswell.ââ I think ââswellââ is the right word. The penis expands as blood fills its tissues and both loverâs nipples may harden. If we had a stethoscope, we could prove that by this time your heart rate has gone high. The heart is racing and the body is anticipating serious pleasure. Donât let it down. I canât imagine any crime bigger than frustrating a legit sexual expectation. Most men are not aware that the vagina swells, because we care very little about what happens to someone else. But be observant enough to notice such things if you are going to make love the natural and exceptional way. You want to leave a lasting memory and not a lasting regret. Remember, women have a better memory than men. She is not going to forget the things you are doing. You donât want to have a bad reputation of doing it before foreplay or causing lips to swell and then disappointing the ââswelledââ vagina. That is bedroom blasphemyâstraightout. These are the sins men commit and go scot-free coz the penal code says nothing about that. Nothing is as disappointing as sex with a man who raises the hopes of his womanâs body and neglects it.
You need to please your wife sexually and to do that you must concern yourself with ââworldlyââ stuff. ââHe who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lordâ how he may please the Lord. But he who is married cares about the things of the worldâhow he may please his wifeââ,(I Corinthians 7:32- 33 ).Traditional women who just sit there like a log and do nothing make it worse for men. Do everything in your power madam and sexually excite your man. If he should one day fall prey to another woman who knows what she is doing, he will not return. We have had many cases where a man left his woman and went for another and never returned despite our prayers and fasting. We just hope it was not a euphoric blow-job that kept him all this while. Donât you think there might have been something about the other woman that captivated him? Now I donât mean to offend you if you have been betrayed. Maybe yours is an exceptional case in which you were dealing with a hard to satisfy ââdog.ââ But my point is this: Do you remember the story of Samson in the bible? He often got interested in Philistine women despite the trouble. There was something Samson felt around Delilah that captivated the way he thought of her. It might have been how she dressed, talked or maybe a good massage she often gave him. Godly women who preferred being Jewish over being sexy never really attracted Samson. Imagine how many times Samson faced death and yet kept on falling for gentile women. Oh, boy...there must have been something... Okay lets go on... Stage one is over when the penis is erect and the vagina is wet and has swelled, whatâs next?
Stage 2
Here, the vagina continues to be puffy and penis becomes firmer. There is more that happens than the snake being let out to play. Testis or the balls move slowly up the scrotum. Vaginal walls grow thicker and the clitoris, (a small city of pleasure the size of a bean seed) starts playing hide and seek. It simply goes into its hood. The color of the vagina may change and this might be more noticeable if the person is light skinned coz it turns reddish or purplish particularly on its lips. Obviously thatâs a traffic light or a red robot but in the bedroom, red means go. What happens when a car prepares to depart might as well happen to these two lovers. Breathing intensifies, and one can only expect that the lungs have joined in and thatâs why there is heavy breathing. It will take a trained eye to notice that the muscles around the waists and hips and buttocks have tightened. The environment is ââhotââ and the war is about to begin. Donât disappoint, this I must say again and again. Very few men in a society know what it is to not disappoint. You see, the vagina and the penis are very technical and until you have properly studied them you will have a reason to believe in evolution. I am a preacher who doesnât believe the idea that the vagina and the penis are a result of evolution or adaptation. Someone deliberately made these things. That person must be God.
Stage 3
After oral sex, foreplay and all the body chores, the pumping is on, beginning with the missionary position. I hate to call it the missionary position. Its a basic position where a man is on top of a woman. But you can do vise-versa and call that woman-on-top or reverse-cow-girl. I will show you that later on when we talk about sex positions. Many people despise Christians because some Christians have the tendency of looking lame and seeming to not be in touch with matters of pleasure while trying to prove how holy they are. This position of man on top, is basic and was thus called the missionary position to mock the insipid Christian lack of interest in sex. Stage three; sex goes on and on and on. We are talking penetration here (Biceps and triceps move). There is pumping, no doubt and there are contractions and various positions if need be to enhance penetrations, and sex is at its highest. Maybe at this point it makes sense to review those earlier on comments in which some say they feel the mind is blanking out, some say itâs like a ride on Virgin Atlantic. A blatantly honest guy says ââits like someone is hitting me with a hammer in the head and I am splitting into piecesââ. Is that so? Strange neh? According to Dr Arun Ghosh, who specializes in sexual health at the Spire Liverpool Hospital, a hormone called oxytocin is released during sex. This hormone is also known as the love hormone and makes one more loving, yielding to the other. It makes one to feel empathetic. They say ââit lowers our defenses and makes us trust people more.ââ Itâs the reason why your lady still loves you when you have let her down so many times. It creates that bonding effect and this hormone is released in better amounts in women. It makes them to love their men and love their kids. Mothers produce oxytocin when breast-feeding. Thatâs why mothers by nature just love their kids and would die for them. Diane Witt, an assistant professor of psychology, has done experiments that demonstrate that the hindrance of the release of this hormone in sheep and rats caused them to reject their young ones. Guys, God is a genius and Charles Darwin was crazy. What part of these things is coincidence from a big bang?
Okay, lets go on. So, the man continues bonking and the woman
